Eleven years ago I allowed a man into my house to rent a room. At first he seemed a nice person and we had music in common. He had unusual behaviour in that he would run around the house. There was obviously something not quite right.
He was a perfectionist and felt that he was better than anyone else.
he was a bit of a loner and would go out on his bycycle for hours on end. As time passed bye I believe that he latched himself on to me. He then started his Nasty comments towards me.
your girlfriend has fat ankles.
I dont want you spending my rent money on things you like.
I dont want you playing in a band because thats what i want to do !.
I dont like you talking to girls I like !
and so it went on and on.
I asked my father to ask him to leave the house as i found it very stressfull but my father said he was a good payer and he should stay. I wish i had been more assertive.
his jealous Narcissistic tyrades against me got worse and worse.
I asked him to stop but he just smiled at me.
I collapsed into a deep depression and started binge eating.he seemed almost gleefull that I was now in my bed for most of the day (16 hours) and out of his way so he could have the run of the house and control things.
I researched his behaviour and came acrosss Narcissist. I was scared out of my life !
eventually another person in the house told me that he had been approached
by my Narcissistic lodger and had asked him to help him undermine me.
when we eventually got him out of the house I . He continued to park his car outside for four weeks. I was very scared.
He moved into another house and succeeded in getting another female lodger removed as she did not like him.
I have suffered from what I believe to be post traumatic stress now for many years
but am slowly getting better.
As I now realise that he was probably Aspergers I am now extremely angry that ten years of my life has been ruined by his nasty manipulative behaviour.
I am a kind and gentle person and so very very scared of what he will do to others.
Do I report him to someone or warn others.
I am scared as i am riddled with thoughts of revenge and wanting to harm him.
I am considering going to the police to tell them of my thoughts so that I will not carry out my revengefull thoughts.
His father was a Narcissistic prison governer.
Have i got my diagnosis wrong ?
what should I do ?
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