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Bullying at school ADVICE NEEDED

tarn31

Hi, im new to this and looking for some advice, my son (9years old) diagnosed with ASD has been being bullied at school for a long time now and i have spoken to the school on many occasions but as soon as they speak to him he says that all is alright and nothing is wrong or that they are not bullying because they have told him they are his friends and that you shouldnt tell on your friends! last wednesday he told me that a child has been bullying him and that the teacher is horrible to him (has said after marking his worK " I DONT KNOW WHY YOU GOT THAT WRONG ITS EASY!") he has said that he does not want to back into that school and could he write a letter to the head to say how he feels, i agreed to this but explained to him that they would want to talk to him and that he has to tell them how he really feels. i handed his letter in on thursday morning with a covering letter to which i recieved a call to arrange a meeting and that to tell me that the child that is bullying my son has been spoken to, he came out of school on thursday in a state as the child had said to him that he was a big mistake and shouldnt have been created! he was very distressed and refused to go back to the school untill they changed his class, i told them he would not be in school untill after the meeting which was today. They sat my son down and asked him what was wrong and he told them that he felt the teacher and the other boy were picking on him. he told them that he didnt want to be anywhere near that teacher (he has never disliked any adult working at the school before) or come back to school untill they move his class, he got quite distressed, he has said he wants to go to school just not this one.then the teacher in question happened to pop in to collect something (a set up!) he got quite distressed and she sat down and started to talk to him, she then told him if he come in tomorrow he could go on the new ipad air and research Meerkats (my son has 2 obsessions that they know about and they are technology and Meerkats!) he agreed to coming in. now this evening he is saying that they were tricking him and saying things that he likes because they knew he would say yes, i myself was not happy with how it went and he has 3 teaching staff in the room with him. he said he had to agree because there was too many of them, where do i go from here?? any advice would be greatly recieved

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  • I see longman sees this as more of a teachers profressions view (Which I gotta say I find that rather interesting and slightly hilarious...not in a mean way!)

    From my history I dealt with alot of the similiar problems as your son did, I had a teacher who made me feel very distressed countless times and used the fact I have ann obsession with dinosaurs to act like she understood what was going on...

    And I went through something similar, the school pychiatrist told my mum I was just attention seeking because they didnt understand why I was so distressed in their classroom. 

    My advice is this, As a parent you want the best education for your son. Clearly this school does not understand what your son needs. People with aspergers including myself have a very good memory when it comes to wrongdoings in our minnd, if your son feels uncomfortable where he is, feels distressed, rather than putting him through how many years (which he will no doubt grow up to resent). put him in an enviroment where they can, a school where they do understand his needs, make sure they do befor eplacing him in, make sure his teacher is 150% aware and knows how to deal with him, that or my personal advice, is homeschooling.

    I Wish on so many earths I was homeschooled, because Im sure your son doesnt need to worry about the enviroment or people who dont understand. 

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  • I see longman sees this as more of a teachers profressions view (Which I gotta say I find that rather interesting and slightly hilarious...not in a mean way!)

    From my history I dealt with alot of the similiar problems as your son did, I had a teacher who made me feel very distressed countless times and used the fact I have ann obsession with dinosaurs to act like she understood what was going on...

    And I went through something similar, the school pychiatrist told my mum I was just attention seeking because they didnt understand why I was so distressed in their classroom. 

    My advice is this, As a parent you want the best education for your son. Clearly this school does not understand what your son needs. People with aspergers including myself have a very good memory when it comes to wrongdoings in our minnd, if your son feels uncomfortable where he is, feels distressed, rather than putting him through how many years (which he will no doubt grow up to resent). put him in an enviroment where they can, a school where they do understand his needs, make sure they do befor eplacing him in, make sure his teacher is 150% aware and knows how to deal with him, that or my personal advice, is homeschooling.

    I Wish on so many earths I was homeschooled, because Im sure your son doesnt need to worry about the enviroment or people who dont understand. 

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