5 year old not managing school - advice needed!

Hi there,

My 5 year old does not have a diagnosis yet but we strongly suspect aspergers and his previous nursery teachers and current teachers have encouraged us to start the process for getting a diagnosis.  

He started school in August and he is really struggling. He has become increasingly stressed out and anxious (although he says school is great and he loves it) and began having nightmares/night terrors, we saw an increase in his nail biting which was already bad and an exaggeration in pretty much all his autism traits (struggling to communicate, poor eye contact, aggression and anger when things don't work out the way he wants or expects). The school started a daily school/home communication sheet and he is hitting (teachers and children), shouting, hiding under tables EVERY DAY.  This is totally not true to his natural demeanour and he is obviously overwhelmed.  

The school was supposed to make referrals to educational pyschologist and other agencies when he was in nursery but had to put their hands up that these were not done.  They were finally put through in October but told nothing would happen until next year!  They have also said he doesn't qualify for additional support because he does not need support academically.  He has two teachers that job share and they have a support assistant some mornings and I think she spends the majority of her time with my son... surely he needs more support??  We are not sure whether to move him to a different local school that has smaller class sizes.

Any advice would be helpful - i feel totally helpless watching him struggle and it can't carry on with him lashing out every day (not safe or fair for him, the teachers or the other kids!) but don't know what to do!

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  • Former Member
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    I don't believe that academic ability is the only determinant in special needs. Good luck to the school if they can manage without help but it doesn't sound as though they can.

    I'm not an expert in this area but I think you may find a call to IPSEA to be useful. Their name comes up on the forum from time to time. Look at the website at https://www.ipsea.org.uk/ and give them a call. There is stuff on there about the school's duties and "EHC plans" which may apply to your son.

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    I don't believe that academic ability is the only determinant in special needs. Good luck to the school if they can manage without help but it doesn't sound as though they can.

    I'm not an expert in this area but I think you may find a call to IPSEA to be useful. Their name comes up on the forum from time to time. Look at the website at https://www.ipsea.org.uk/ and give them a call. There is stuff on there about the school's duties and "EHC plans" which may apply to your son.

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