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Son with ASD with social anxiety and severe depression in his late twenties never goes out

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My son is in his late twenties and lives in a flat we own and pay all the bills for. I just don't know if I should try and intervine after months in his bedroom in his flat, not really leaving it, he is fiercely private, can self medicate with alcohol and I just don't know which way to turn. I find talking about it breaks my heart, and when anything aspergers is spoken about publicly I brim up with tears and grief. Mostly we cope on a day to day basis, but I am getting tired and overwhelmed and just wonder if others have this sort of thing and how do they approach it? He can be quite verbally confrontational, and difficult to stop once he starts. He is very bright.

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    There is a nature vs nurture debate to be had here. Is it in this person's variety of ASD to be doomed to the life he is living or has the cumulative effect of his interaction with his very particular path in life made him into a hermit? The consultant that diagnosed me said that "the morbidity is determined by the environment" for people with ASD. If we end up in a hostile social environment we will become very affected, if we have a benign environment then you can have a totally different life. In my experience, different managers and company cultures have had marked positive and negative influences on my wellbeing.

    I believe that fixing the immediate social environment can change the path of someone's life. Changing the way that people interact with the individual, controlling the number of people that he has to interact with, changing the choices that he has to make etc etc. Training him on how to make choices for himself, identifying triggers and stressors. there are ways of changing his trajectory.

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    There is a nature vs nurture debate to be had here. Is it in this person's variety of ASD to be doomed to the life he is living or has the cumulative effect of his interaction with his very particular path in life made him into a hermit? The consultant that diagnosed me said that "the morbidity is determined by the environment" for people with ASD. If we end up in a hostile social environment we will become very affected, if we have a benign environment then you can have a totally different life. In my experience, different managers and company cultures have had marked positive and negative influences on my wellbeing.

    I believe that fixing the immediate social environment can change the path of someone's life. Changing the way that people interact with the individual, controlling the number of people that he has to interact with, changing the choices that he has to make etc etc. Training him on how to make choices for himself, identifying triggers and stressors. there are ways of changing his trajectory.

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