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Son with ASD with social anxiety and severe depression in his late twenties never goes out

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My son is in his late twenties and lives in a flat we own and pay all the bills for. I just don't know if I should try and intervine after months in his bedroom in his flat, not really leaving it, he is fiercely private, can self medicate with alcohol and I just don't know which way to turn. I find talking about it breaks my heart, and when anything aspergers is spoken about publicly I brim up with tears and grief. Mostly we cope on a day to day basis, but I am getting tired and overwhelmed and just wonder if others have this sort of thing and how do they approach it? He can be quite verbally confrontational, and difficult to stop once he starts. He is very bright.

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  • I would like to think it possible but I'm wary of generalising. The severity of autism seems to hang on certain combinations of traits, and seems to become more adverse geometrically rather than linearly, as the spectrum concept implies.

    Therefore I'm wary of suggesting that such intense introversion and isolation is atypical - a certain combination of traits really will create these circumstances. It happens often. What concerns me is that the professionals don't seem to understand this as autism, and treat the patient for secondaries like depression.

    Some people really do get stuck this way primarily as a direct consequence of their autistic make up.

    It is rather that the system fails to recognise this. The Triad is too vague on this one.

    I just hope recombinantsocks is right about NAS being able to advise on an intervention. The sad fact about local authorities is that they still tend to provide for autism only when it is accompanied by learning disability. If he isn't affected in that way, he may get little help from the authorities.

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  • I would like to think it possible but I'm wary of generalising. The severity of autism seems to hang on certain combinations of traits, and seems to become more adverse geometrically rather than linearly, as the spectrum concept implies.

    Therefore I'm wary of suggesting that such intense introversion and isolation is atypical - a certain combination of traits really will create these circumstances. It happens often. What concerns me is that the professionals don't seem to understand this as autism, and treat the patient for secondaries like depression.

    Some people really do get stuck this way primarily as a direct consequence of their autistic make up.

    It is rather that the system fails to recognise this. The Triad is too vague on this one.

    I just hope recombinantsocks is right about NAS being able to advise on an intervention. The sad fact about local authorities is that they still tend to provide for autism only when it is accompanied by learning disability. If he isn't affected in that way, he may get little help from the authorities.

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