Please excuse my first and long post we are looking for advice and possibly a place to vent.
I am Mum to a unique, funny, loving and quirky 12yr old boy who happens to have HFASD. I first raised my concerns when he was 3. We battled on with school, home schooling him for a few months when he was 5. was told at the time by an ED pysch he did not have Aspergers.
Fast forward to August 2013 we recieve our official diagnosis of ASD we were informed they do not differentiate between ASD and Aspergers any longer.
For our son school life has always been a difficult roller coaster ride PE and literacy have mostly been trigger points.
Our son is now in yr8 and this term has been awful so far with just about daily contact from school to the point where I am now sufffering panic attacks again.
We approached our GP for a CAHMs referral. CAHMs refused it even though he says often he wants to die, kill me now, my life sucks and everyone hates me. He also scribbles this over schoolwork. We then went to the school in July and asked them to refer to Autism Outreach - 26 week referral time great. We are also now waiting for Occupational Therapy assessmet for Dyspraxia and dysgraphia which we have suspected all along.
Due to his behaviour over the past few weeks school have now referred back to Educational pyschologist that they said they would do over a year ago.
When he joined his present school he wasn't added to SEN register until 3wks into term after we rang to warn of a meltdown. He has no IEP or CAF but after meeting with them they did however suddenly produce a strategy plan.
This term he does a have a behavioural plan but how much it is followed we cannot confirm generally find them to be a paperwork exercise.
He is getting told off for being rude, not following teachers instructions, walking out of class, scribbling on work and so on. Which we have highlighted on his plan as him rumbling and beginning to shutdown. They are supposed to differentiate for the whole class but this is academically only, not that he can tell you what he could put on a poster but he can't draw it for example.
Everytime we have the behavioural policy thrown at us it seems, and that it is applicable to every student regardless of disabiltiy or additional needs, is this right?
We have a meeting again next week as we want to raise a formal complaint with the school. They have said we need a heading to be able to address our concern/compliant.
I am now looking at option of moving school, but what if the new school is worse. or homeschooling again.
Thank you for taking the time to read this.
