Hi im new to this site sorry if this is the wrong place to post but ive posted here as im looking for advice from other parents.
i have a 3 year old daughter who ive had niggling concerns about for a while but thought would see how she progresses when speech improved as i thought it may have been due to frustration from lack of clear understandable communication but as her speech is improving she is still being violent and other things.
to give a bit of background.
she has 3 siblings younger and older.
Birth was quite difficult due to her position and was close to emergency cesarean due to her heart rate dropping and when born had passed meconium.
a baby she had reflux and never slept well (possibly due to reflux?)
She is small for her age eats ok but has always refused any kind of fruit or vegetable despite many attempts of hiding it in food discuising it she finds it and refuses trying to make it fun and offer it even though doesnt get eaten.she will eat mash potato though that is the only exception.her siblings love fruit and veg but i try not to compare them as they are individuals.
She has always been very active, fearless child.
A bit slow with speech side of things would say some words and put 2 words together but used actions / body language to express self and increasingly frustrated by communication barrier would headbutt things when fustrated.she will sometimes talk in 'hums' and look at you out the corner of her eyes.her expression doesnt always match how she is acting/what her feelings seem to be.
She has never been a good sleeper this has slightly improved the past month or so.
she has no sense of danger (which i know is still developing at this age but she would think nothing of running into busy main road, jumped off things and climbed since she could walk properly she is a very good climber and not afraid of heights)
she can be a lovely kind artistic energetic little girl typical of a 3 year old (i know every child is different) but some things keep bringing the niggles back in my mind wondering if it is normal 3 year old behaviour / just her personality or if something more is going on.
she has violent outbursts these have decreased a little with stricter routine and making sure she is not bored and has lots of interaction but the nature of the things she does is the concern. Hurting older sibling strangling kicking pinning down.kicking younger sibling in throat.she can be ok one minute and the next flip like jekyl and hyde.
She has started nursery and they have mentioned no concerns so far have parents evening soon and will discuss concerns then with teacher.
I have started a parenting course wondering if it is something im doing wrong / find strategies to help behaviour. As ive tried reward charts, praise for positive things, not giving extra attention to negative behaviour, more 1 to 1 time each day.
The only time she is fully calm is on the swing but On stomach spinning in circles.
has anyone experienced this or have any advice
Im thinking of talking about my concerns at parenting course too where else can i seek advice .
sorry the post is so long thankyou for reading if you got this far.
