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Tired of attitude, not wanting to play with toys and crying outbursts

jrandall10

Hello all. 

Our daughter is seven and in year two at a mainstream school. She has sensory processing disorder and mild autism. I need help as I feel like I wanna run away as I'm wanting to give up. If our daughter isn't giving us attitude then she crying instead. Don't get me wrong it's not all horrible all the time but I'm lost. Discipline doesn't work and she can't explain if anything's wrong. She gets no support at school and I get no daily feed back from there either. I don't know if she is being a kid or if it's something sensor or if it's her asd. 

She hardly ever plays but loves getting new toys or teddies, I've tried playing with her but she gets cross. Also sometimes I just need time to stop as I work too. 

She hates my hubby doing stuff with her like baths or putting her to bed n I just do it to stop the trauma.

Do we give her some leeway because she has Sen issues or treat her like a seven year old :-(

Thanks in advance Jayne

  • Thank you for your reply. I will do a search and start reading. I have read lots already but I've lost my way a little and stopped trying. Thanks again 

  • Hi.  My guess is that your daughter is suffering from anxiety/stress because she isn't getting any support at school.  She comes home + lets it out.  It's quite a common thing to happen.  So it's important you keep fighting for her to get that support.  Check things out via the home page or the ipsea site.  Also she needs to be treated as a 7 yr old autistic child with spd.  There will be info on that via the home pg as well.  I understand it's not easy for any of you, but anything you can do to ease things will benefit you all.  Loads of info also via the posts - just do a search.  I hope things improve soon. Smile

  • I will do, thank you for your help. We have told her she will loose her favourite for five minutes every time she is cheeky and it seems to of worked this evening but I don't think it's an ideal idea 

  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Born Naughty is really good IMO, it reminded me of things I did when I was little and they have people who can tell the difference between what is naughtiness and what is due to autism. They also show some ways of dealing with both naughtiness and autism. I think you might find it useful but you may also recognise things in your daughter that the children are shown doing on the programme. I expect you can watch the series on catch-up or 4OD on the internet.

  • I'm not sure about hubby, sometimes I think maybe but have never talked about it with him. I'm not sure how to deal with :-(

  • Hello

    I mean explaining it's the wrong thing to do or saying no. She doesn't understand and still does it. I haven't watched, was it good?

  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Hi again,

    Do you think your husband may also be on the spectrum? His having difficulties dealing with her and the fact that he is a stay at home dad made me wonder.

    I don't think that 'giving her leeway' is the right way to think about it. She will need a different approach but that doesn't mean letting her get away with murder.

  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Hi Jayne,

    What do you mean by 'discipline'?

    Have you seen the Born Naughty series on C4 at the moment? This shows how you can transform the life of a child with ASD by dealing with it with understanding.