Hi, my four year old son is in the process of being put on the autistic specdrum, and I am struggling at times as his mum to help him cope with life when there are several changes in a short space of time, and I am struggling to cope myself with him when he doesn't cope. My son goes kind of hyper with any changes, it seems to be his way of coping, and the more changes there are the more hyper he goes. I know the obvious answer is dont have too many changes close together, but sometimes life just doesn't work like that. I try my best to limit changes close together and try to calm him in between each one (with a relaxing walk, sitting quietly reading, lavendar oil in bathroom at bath time to help him wind down etc) but even then he just doesn't seem to be able to fully relax and stay calm. For example 2weeks ago his dad went back to work (he works at sea) which usually triggers him a little but not much as his dad has always done this job so he is fairly used to it. The following week my son had his school induction days. This week it's his nursery sports day. Now these are big events for him, but he has had a good few days in between each one to settle. However last night and this morning he is just not coping. He is hyper, he isn't listening to anyone, he is physically lashing out at people and animals given the chance, yet he is fragile (the slightest upset causes him major distress). This is usually how it goes. How can I help him cope? How do I cope with him like that? sorry for such long discussion, I just don't know how to help him or what to do. Thank you
