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struggling mum

My son is 12 very soon and have a dilemma. He loves his technology but same old battle of me thinking he plays too many games but do understand this is his release from coping with school. I'm working hard with his teacher to provide support for him. Anyway, I intended on buying my son a laptop this year as a special treat; to help with school work and because he loves watching gaming videos etc. (His often on my laptop). His asked for an old style console which his having from his father. When I broached the subject with my son he said he would prefer another console instead of a laptop. My son is very much a collector and consoles seem to be what his wanting to collect. I've always said no until now as he has an xbox and playstation from his dad and I was always of the opinion that one console is enough for any child. Since diagnosis and trying to learn more about his aspergers I'm now wondering if I should respect that its a console he wants or should I continue to draw the line? I just don't know. I guess I expected him to be really happy about a laptop as not something I can usually afford and kinda suprised his not so do I indulge his 'obsession' or try to direct him away? Any helpful suggestions would be much appreciated. Thank-you x

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    I would stick to your guns. He will appreciate having his own PC and his father is giving him a console. Try not to make an argument about it. You ought to be able to get advice on what sort of laptop from his school.

    There is a danger that he will interpret your wavering as a weakness that he might latch on to - it may encourage him to be more demanding in future. Being consistent and rational/reasonable is key, in my opinion, to dealing with autistic kids demands.

    Your opinion about how many consoles are necessary may not be useful. Try and be rational and reasonable with him - you might find it hard to justify exactly why he should only have a limited number and that argument may just infuriate him.