Hi all,
I'm going to apologise now as I don't know how to describe our situation without sounding a bit weird.....
I have a 5 year old son diagnosed as ASD. He also has sensory difficulties, but rather than an avoider tends to be a seeker (other than auditory). This sensory seeking behaviour is relevant I think...
He has an absolute obsession with my bare bottom. Given half the chance he will pull my trousers down or he'll crawl up underneath my night-dress. He's always loved the feel of my bare skin against his - he used to lie against my tummy for example - but the bottom thing, he doesn't necessarily need to be undressed, he just likes to be pressed up tight against my bottom, particularly if I'm squatting down - like getting something out of a low cupboard for example (he has pounced on many occasions both at home and in the supermarket....!!!)
I'm fairly relaxed about most things so just try to distract or laugh it off, he is verbal but has quite marked language difficulties so we can't have a conversation about it and he gets very distressed if he realises he's not going to get his way (I don't indulge him by the way).
I was recently changing his sister's nappy on the bedroom floor, perfect opportunity for him to launch himself! Once my hands were free I peeled him off and then a minute or so later I changed his nappy....and then I realised he had the remains of an erection. A similar event has happened since. The idea that him grabbing my bottom gives him an erection makes me feel quite uncomfortable.
I'm a bit confused about what's happening here. When it comes to talking about willies and things, I'm fine with it - he's already noticed it grows in the bath sometimes and I'm perfectly relaxed about that. It's good to know his bits work!! But this is just a bit different and don't know what to make of it.
I just wondered if anyone else has experienced anything similar or had any thoughts they could offer? Sorry if this all sounds a bit strange.....!!
Thank you