.
Hi Dr3am3r,
Sorry to hear you are still battling. Believe it or not, I was doing the same last year for my son. The probelm is, that you are asking questions that you are unlikely to get answers to. I did the same! Why drop a child down a level that is not comenserate to their ability? Why not give them the provision required at their correct learning level and as identified by the LDA, to enable that child to achieve? It just didn't make sense to my logical ASPIE brain. What I failed to see, was the hidden adgenda behind their reluctance.
You can only speculate that they view it that your son is only there for a few more months and in their veiw, his needs will then become someone elses problem. It's a sickening attitude, but it exists and does huge damage to a young persons self-esteem. My lad was suicidal toward the end.
Forgive me, you may have told me before (Memory is failing me.), but I'm assuming that he has no Statement? A statement; as I understand it, would have forced them into provision and if they failed your son, you would/should have recourse through the courts for any failures.(If you can endure this)
An LDA was not legaly binding for my son at the time, so the College flouted it at every opotunity. The law may have changed since the EHC plans, Perhaps you should check.
I've spent a lifetime fighting for the basic rights for my kids to be assessed, finally statemented and receive provision, but even then, you run the difficulty in FE, HE and the work place. I'm not suggesting you give up, but it may pay you to focus your energies on getting better provision at the next level, than exhausting yourself with complaints after the fact to a School he no longer attends.
I had to do this with my son, because his mental health needs demanded more attention than the clear injustice of it all.
I took my other sons case to tribunal through IPSEA and won, so then the tribunal took it upon themselves to put the School straight, But I'm not sure what the position is now, as it all seems to be going down the mediation line.
My EP said, 'it was the most damming report against a School that he has seen in 40 years of practice.' He wanted to frame it!!!!)
Although this was a significant victory in attaining his support and truly vindicated my belief that the School was failing my son, the victory was short lived, as we set about repairing the damage that was caused to my sons plummeting self-esteem issues and the lost therapy intervention that he should have received. I should have sued and indeed, I was advised to, but all I wanted was the support for my son that was needed.
I hope you are not disheartened by my post and I'm sure you relize that I'm well intentioned, so can I suggest that you refocus and prioritize what's important. I nearly had a breakdown myself over the strain of it all and I've seen the damage it can do when you are then too depleated to help anyone. You sound like you need some outside help.
Consider.
The sad part is that these issues still keep cropping up for many.
The injustice of it all makes me angry, but the truth is that you will become ill if you spread yourself too thin.
Life supporting those on the spectrum is hard enough without such injustices, but please don't underestimate your own health and well-being, as I did.
'Worrior Mum,' can soon become 'Battle Weary Mum' if you dont look after yourself.
My heart goes out to you.
Take Care
Coogybear xx
Hi Dr3am3r,
Sorry to hear you are still battling. Believe it or not, I was doing the same last year for my son. The probelm is, that you are asking questions that you are unlikely to get answers to. I did the same! Why drop a child down a level that is not comenserate to their ability? Why not give them the provision required at their correct learning level and as identified by the LDA, to enable that child to achieve? It just didn't make sense to my logical ASPIE brain. What I failed to see, was the hidden adgenda behind their reluctance.
You can only speculate that they view it that your son is only there for a few more months and in their veiw, his needs will then become someone elses problem. It's a sickening attitude, but it exists and does huge damage to a young persons self-esteem. My lad was suicidal toward the end.
Forgive me, you may have told me before (Memory is failing me.), but I'm assuming that he has no Statement? A statement; as I understand it, would have forced them into provision and if they failed your son, you would/should have recourse through the courts for any failures.(If you can endure this)
An LDA was not legaly binding for my son at the time, so the College flouted it at every opotunity. The law may have changed since the EHC plans, Perhaps you should check.
I've spent a lifetime fighting for the basic rights for my kids to be assessed, finally statemented and receive provision, but even then, you run the difficulty in FE, HE and the work place. I'm not suggesting you give up, but it may pay you to focus your energies on getting better provision at the next level, than exhausting yourself with complaints after the fact to a School he no longer attends.
I had to do this with my son, because his mental health needs demanded more attention than the clear injustice of it all.
I took my other sons case to tribunal through IPSEA and won, so then the tribunal took it upon themselves to put the School straight, But I'm not sure what the position is now, as it all seems to be going down the mediation line.
My EP said, 'it was the most damming report against a School that he has seen in 40 years of practice.' He wanted to frame it!!!!)
Although this was a significant victory in attaining his support and truly vindicated my belief that the School was failing my son, the victory was short lived, as we set about repairing the damage that was caused to my sons plummeting self-esteem issues and the lost therapy intervention that he should have received. I should have sued and indeed, I was advised to, but all I wanted was the support for my son that was needed.
I hope you are not disheartened by my post and I'm sure you relize that I'm well intentioned, so can I suggest that you refocus and prioritize what's important. I nearly had a breakdown myself over the strain of it all and I've seen the damage it can do when you are then too depleated to help anyone. You sound like you need some outside help.
Consider.
The sad part is that these issues still keep cropping up for many.
The injustice of it all makes me angry, but the truth is that you will become ill if you spread yourself too thin.
Life supporting those on the spectrum is hard enough without such injustices, but please don't underestimate your own health and well-being, as I did.
'Worrior Mum,' can soon become 'Battle Weary Mum' if you dont look after yourself.
My heart goes out to you.
Take Care
Coogybear xx
