but they aren't saying they want him to do that in an NT manner. They want a contribution but it can be a lateral or associative thought. they have a responsibility for enabling this too by understanding that his contribution may be different to other kids.
"be more organised and come to lessons prepared"
i.e. he needs to work harder at organisation - there are techniques and methods to help us be more organised (aka executive function) - pls see the book that coogy recommended
Having asd means that we have tendencies and problems but it does not excuse completely disorganised and helpless behaviour unless he is so disabled by it that he does not expect to pass exams and get a job at the end of it. I had asd for 56 years before diagnosis - I now know why I find these things hard and non intuitive. When I first went to secondary school it was a grammar school which had strict timetabling and organisation and that suited me well. He needs to organise himself - perhaps using a smartphone with lots of reminders and notes? - with your help as much as necessary. Tony Attwood's book has a section on this, it seems that many parents become their children's secretaries but I think that technology should be able to take some of that load nowadays.
but they aren't saying they want him to do that in an NT manner. They want a contribution but it can be a lateral or associative thought. they have a responsibility for enabling this too by understanding that his contribution may be different to other kids.
"be more organised and come to lessons prepared"
i.e. he needs to work harder at organisation - there are techniques and methods to help us be more organised (aka executive function) - pls see the book that coogy recommended
Having asd means that we have tendencies and problems but it does not excuse completely disorganised and helpless behaviour unless he is so disabled by it that he does not expect to pass exams and get a job at the end of it. I had asd for 56 years before diagnosis - I now know why I find these things hard and non intuitive. When I first went to secondary school it was a grammar school which had strict timetabling and organisation and that suited me well. He needs to organise himself - perhaps using a smartphone with lots of reminders and notes? - with your help as much as necessary. Tony Attwood's book has a section on this, it seems that many parents become their children's secretaries but I think that technology should be able to take some of that load nowadays.
