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Girls with Aspergers/ASD

ChelleandBelle78

Hi all, 

I'm new on the forum. My daughter is 14 yrs old and has high functioning Autism. Teachers have always said that she is 'fine' at school but she struggles massively with anxiety. Mostly social anxiety but often has meltdowns (at home) due to too much pressure at school. She has never recieved any help accademically, even though she struggles due to slow mental processing and perception problems because she hides everything to avoid attention at school. So when i approach the school to ask for help and support they play everything down. Only people who are close to her see how much she struggles and I feel let down just because she doesn't fall within the category of children on the spectrum who show obvious signs of distress. 

Does anyone else find this? Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated. 

Michelle x 

  • I am concerned that my 14 year old daughter has high functioning mild aspergers (if that is a thing) and I don't know if I should get her assessed. She is, likewise, fine academically at school, apart from the massive anxiety she shows at home. Problems appeared when she was younger so I took her to the NHS psyhcologist to try and get help when she was 7 and again at 11. She went once each time, refused to go again and if anything it just made things worse.  If I mention going to see someone now she'll just refuse so I don't know what to do.

  • Hi - sounds very familiar.  Am going through the process of EHC at the moment.  I agree - the workbooks can be useful.  However, the big difference I've found is whether school is supportive.  If they aren't (and very true - they don't actually have to do anything unless there is a statement/EHC)...- It is worth getting one I think - esp as now it runs up till age 25.

    Everyone has a point whereby they can't go on - for us it was this year age 13 (after 5/6 years of misery). 


     

  • My daughter 17 is ASD, she muddled through school, with meltdowns at home.

  • Hello and Welcome,

      What you describe is indeed very familiar and females on the spectrum have a reputation for masking things which makes identification of various issues, quite difficult.

    The difficulty is that left unaddressed, her anxiety may become worse.

    Have you looked into support via a Statement/EHC Plan? Schools have a tendancy to play things down if they don't have official guidelines to follow. You may wish to pursue this if you havn't already done so. Sadly, most support for children on the spectrum (Especially HF ASD) has to be parent driven.

    If you would like a workbook to help with well-being, this may also be helpful in identifying strengths and weaknesses in being able to manage stress.

    www.amazon.co.uk/.../1606236342

    Some therapy support may also help and can have a real impact if the right therapist is found.

    How accepting of the diagnosis is your daughter? Does she understand the need for self-exploration or is it too much at this time?

    I have many links I could forward to you, but i need a little more info.

    Coogy