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? for parents from adult as pie: how to tell?

GodzillaWoman

hi there, i'm new to the forum. I have a question for parents of kids on the spectrum but i am not a parent, I am an adult, getting assessed for Asperger's this month. I would like your opinions on this--if your child was not diagnosed until adulthood, and was the one to tell you, how would you want to be told? I really want to tell my Mom about this in a respectful, loving way. I want her to know I don't think she caused this or is in absolutely NO way to blame, it's just genetics, just chance, no different than if i had cerebral palsy or diabetes. I want to share this with her but I'm super scared. I want her to know the real me, and why i was such a messed up, difficult child, screaming and throwing things and i didn't know why. I would like her to be with me on this new journey, trying to figure out how to be a better person. I don't always know how she's going to react to things I say, and I don't know if I am saying it wrong, and don't want to mess this up. I'm also scared she won't want to believe that i've got something different about me.  Any advice??? what do i say to her? thanks!!!

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    Your thoughts are jumbled up because that is the way we asd people think sometimes. You may well struggle to communicate but that is OK, it is part of the problem - we are rubbish at communicating things - particularly emotions.

    You can apologise for the trouble you have been - apologising is a thing that we are not good at so this may be hard.

    I wouldn't compare this to cerebral palsy or diabetes - I would much rather be this way than anything like that. It is problematic to live with but it also makes us different, original, honest and OK.

    (I'm an adult diagnosed aspie and also a prent but not of ASD kids)

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    Former Member

    Your thoughts are jumbled up because that is the way we asd people think sometimes. You may well struggle to communicate but that is OK, it is part of the problem - we are rubbish at communicating things - particularly emotions.

    You can apologise for the trouble you have been - apologising is a thing that we are not good at so this may be hard.

    I wouldn't compare this to cerebral palsy or diabetes - I would much rather be this way than anything like that. It is problematic to live with but it also makes us different, original, honest and OK.

    (I'm an adult diagnosed aspie and also a prent but not of ASD kids)

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