My sons is in year 3 of mainstream school. He has ASD and there are currently assesments ongoing for ADHD. HE has a full statment and TA Support in school. HE soils as he refuses to use the toilet. We have tried everything possible with phsycologists and Incontience team ect to no avrail. My son also tends to have several sides to his personality. He acts all calm and acts like he has no care in the world at school. but as soon as he leaves the school gates ( which i am sure the teachers have seen at times but ignore it) he lets rip on me he tells me how unhappy he is at school and about what has happend that day however he never properly tells me the story he has. He never wants me to go into school and say anything to anyone which is why he wont tell me properly who it is. ie: he said that a teacher had said i hadn't helped him enough with his soiling which is why he still does it but he won't tell me which teacher said it.
I had his parents evening last week which i was really upset as the whole time the teacher had a go at me has i had difficulty getting him to do homework which she even said he would start falling behind if i didn't get his homework done to a better standard. I don't understand how far behind he could get from one worksheet a week. I know the worksheet his to do with his book to see if i read with him as they don't read with him at school. Which brings me to another point the books they have him on are far to easy for him which i have brought to there attention several times. His teacher is now also making him stay in at break times when she says his homework isn't good enough which is making matters worse as he feels thats my fault and is even less willing to do.
I know of a specailist Autism school near by which if i want him to go i need to the council to pay for which could take some time. I just don't know wether i should move his mainstream school now as it could take along time to get him in the specail school or wether i should move his school now as i really don't know if i can keep going with the current school he is in. It isn't like its new things as these kind of things have been happening since he started school and on several occasions i have felt like i am failing him as a parent becuse of some of the things the school has said.
