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Undiagnosed 6-yr-old, mother at end of tether!

Luca's mum

Hi,

I would like some advice/help/sympathy!

I have a 6-yr-old boy who has anger issues and can be really defiant. He hurts other kids at school and was excluded for a day and a half the other week. I had a "Choices" interview with Camhs in April, but we have been on a waiting list since then, without being seen. His headmistress thinks he has Attachment Disorder, and he certainly seems to tick most of the boxes, but I am finding it hard to know how to deal with him. I am trying to set clear boundaries, but he doesn't seem to learn - the behaviour doesn't change. Instead, he resents me for punishing him.

I get really upset when we go out and he refuses to do as he's told - it makes me feel like an idiot for not being able to control a 6-yr-old! I feel like no-one wants us around and I can't take him anywhere without being really worried about his behaviour. We are due to go to Brighton this weekend, to visit friends, and I am just dreading him hurting their child, and running off or being wilfully disobedient in public. 

Any advice gratefully accepted...

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  • Hi Luca's Mum Thanks for posting. I am sorry that you are having such a hard time at the moment. I have put a link below to information about coping with challenging behaviour. www.autism.org.uk/.../understanding-behaviour.aspx There are various strategies for dealing with all sorts of behaviour and hopefully you will find something that may be able to help. On a more personal note, I can totally relate to how you are feeling. My son was just like your son and a nightmare to take anywhere. We got to the stage where we did not go out and people stopped coming to see us! I found the best thing to do with friends was to be totally honest about my son and his behaviour and explain to them how difficult it is for your son and for you. I also found that my son behaved better for other people than he did for me. I did spend a few years living on my nerves but he did settle down and has now gone off to university which we never thought he would manage. Don't lock yourself away because you worry about what people think. You will certainly find out who your true friends are but stick with them and they will help you get through. Good luck Colincat
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  • Hi Luca's Mum Thanks for posting. I am sorry that you are having such a hard time at the moment. I have put a link below to information about coping with challenging behaviour. www.autism.org.uk/.../understanding-behaviour.aspx There are various strategies for dealing with all sorts of behaviour and hopefully you will find something that may be able to help. On a more personal note, I can totally relate to how you are feeling. My son was just like your son and a nightmare to take anywhere. We got to the stage where we did not go out and people stopped coming to see us! I found the best thing to do with friends was to be totally honest about my son and his behaviour and explain to them how difficult it is for your son and for you. I also found that my son behaved better for other people than he did for me. I did spend a few years living on my nerves but he did settle down and has now gone off to university which we never thought he would manage. Don't lock yourself away because you worry about what people think. You will certainly find out who your true friends are but stick with them and they will help you get through. Good luck Colincat
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