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Hi,

I am wondering if anyone has any advice for me and my husband.  Our middle child was

diagnosed with Aspergers at 15 and we continually have ups and downs.  At 19, he is at

a local college doing a HND in performing arts (2nd  yr) hoping to go to Uni to finish his degree in Sept 2015. He has a part time job and a girlfriend but he really struggles with money. He has terrible trouble with money and although he has a part time job in a pub which he loves he asks us manage his money for him as he can't help himself as he just spends it and at any chance will withdraw money (usually in the £100's) and spend it. He has run up loads of debt which we have always sorted out with money that we have saved for him.  He left home last year under bad circumstances and lived out for a few weeks and ran up loads of debt and made himself ill and very thin.  He only came home after being attacked and ending up in hospital. He is still trying to buy friendships and when we won't give him more than he wants as he is trying to save for a car etc etc he throws everything back in our faces and says he's gonna call the police on us as we are stealing from him.  Has anyone experienced anything like this and does anyone have any advice.

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  • Our son has similar difficulties who is now in his mid twenties. I was reading about a Banking setup for under 18s called Gohenry (www.gohenry.co.uk) which, if there was an adult version would be ideal for our adult children if they wanted support to manage their money.

    There is sill a total lack of  Life Learning for those who have missed the boat because of their age and lack of knowledge pre 10 plus years ago. It would be so good if the autism strategy could finally be productive and make some inroad into providing services for this group and above.

    We know there are areas of excellent practice in other parts of England but the further north you go the less there is, it has entered our minds to move but feel the benefits would create more problems than it's worth.

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  • Our son has similar difficulties who is now in his mid twenties. I was reading about a Banking setup for under 18s called Gohenry (www.gohenry.co.uk) which, if there was an adult version would be ideal for our adult children if they wanted support to manage their money.

    There is sill a total lack of  Life Learning for those who have missed the boat because of their age and lack of knowledge pre 10 plus years ago. It would be so good if the autism strategy could finally be productive and make some inroad into providing services for this group and above.

    We know there are areas of excellent practice in other parts of England but the further north you go the less there is, it has entered our minds to move but feel the benefits would create more problems than it's worth.

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