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son 25 may be on spectrum

mitz

My 25 year old son was diagnosed with Crohn's disease when he was 18. This lead him to have a severe depressive episode. The mental health team eventually said that they thought he may have mild autism. He refused a diagnosis and got quite annoyed about it, so it was taken no futher. His new GP also thinks he may have it although his old GP was not convinced. Anyway he's just finished his university degree with a basic pass and can't get a job yet. He can't claim jobseekers as he saved up all the allowances he had when he was ill and has over the savings limit. He doesn't get any allowances now. He still blames my husband and I for him getting the Crohns disease, which is thankfully in remission and will not discuss ASD. On top of everything my husband has just been diagnosed with heart failure. I lost my mother with heart failure this year so this was an added blow for everyone. My son could put his savings towards my mother's bungalow which is now owned by my sister and I. If we helped him to own the property he could then probably claim jobseekers. But he prefers to live with us. We don't mind supporting him but we are now on pensions. I think if he could get a job things would look up, but they are difficult at the moment. I just wondered if anyone had any suggestions. Thanks.

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  • I think that is an amazing achievement to have passed a degree (whatever the grade) while having Crohns, which is enough to make anyone depressed. He has also done it without ending up thousands of pounds in debt, which is an achievement in itself!

    If he does not want to pursue the AS issue I would not push it, just focus on making him aware of how much he has already done, and that there are still opportunities. If he wanted to at a later date, there may be a way to retake a year of the course, or use what he has done as "accredited prior learning" 

    If he has not declared the Crohns up until now, it would probably be possible to get the degree grade reclassified by his Uni, but obviously he would need to tell them..

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  • I think that is an amazing achievement to have passed a degree (whatever the grade) while having Crohns, which is enough to make anyone depressed. He has also done it without ending up thousands of pounds in debt, which is an achievement in itself!

    If he does not want to pursue the AS issue I would not push it, just focus on making him aware of how much he has already done, and that there are still opportunities. If he wanted to at a later date, there may be a way to retake a year of the course, or use what he has done as "accredited prior learning" 

    If he has not declared the Crohns up until now, it would probably be possible to get the degree grade reclassified by his Uni, but obviously he would need to tell them..

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