son 25 may be on spectrum

My 25 year old son was diagnosed with Crohn's disease when he was 18. This lead him to have a severe depressive episode. The mental health team eventually said that they thought he may have mild autism. He refused a diagnosis and got quite annoyed about it, so it was taken no futher. His new GP also thinks he may have it although his old GP was not convinced. Anyway he's just finished his university degree with a basic pass and can't get a job yet. He can't claim jobseekers as he saved up all the allowances he had when he was ill and has over the savings limit. He doesn't get any allowances now. He still blames my husband and I for him getting the Crohns disease, which is thankfully in remission and will not discuss ASD. On top of everything my husband has just been diagnosed with heart failure. I lost my mother with heart failure this year so this was an added blow for everyone. My son could put his savings towards my mother's bungalow which is now owned by my sister and I. If we helped him to own the property he could then probably claim jobseekers. But he prefers to live with us. We don't mind supporting him but we are now on pensions. I think if he could get a job things would look up, but they are difficult at the moment. I just wondered if anyone had any suggestions. Thanks.

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  • Thank you for your helpful reply. I think my son did ok until the last year which he really struggled with, including the project. He actually did applied computing. If he had had an AS diagnosis he wouldn't have declared it as with the Crohn's, so I don't know what the Uni could have done in this case. I did realize that there was a link between the two conditions. He is still very angry about having the Crohns nevermind anything else. Thanks again it's good to get other people's viewpoints.

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  • Thank you for your helpful reply. I think my son did ok until the last year which he really struggled with, including the project. He actually did applied computing. If he had had an AS diagnosis he wouldn't have declared it as with the Crohn's, so I don't know what the Uni could have done in this case. I did realize that there was a link between the two conditions. He is still very angry about having the Crohns nevermind anything else. Thanks again it's good to get other people's viewpoints.

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