Hi everybody
This is my first time posting on NAS, so please bear with me.
My son was diagnosed with ASD/ADHD this year February. So everything is still very new to us. My son is high functioning and in mainstream school (Year 3). The school he is at has 32 children in a class, but it is a very good school. The head teacher is amazing.
Although we are starting to be concerned about our son. He is coming home saying that he was upset at school and had nobody to play with at playtime. After speaking to his teacher about it a couple of months ago, he is still struggling with this. I went to speak to the Senco teacher just to be told he should join lunch time clubs. We have now signed him up for 4 clubs at lunch time. We now have my son coming home upset because in the last 2 weeks he attended 3 out of 8 clubs due to it being cancelled. He is confused and not sure whether he is coming or going. His teacher gave him an amber warning for not pushing his chair in whilst sitting on it, even though we specifically told his teacher he struggles with that due to lax ligaments and no upper body strength. When my son struggles to understand something he would try to ask the teacher, but get dismissed. He has been given a new desk to sat in 5 times since he started in September and now have 2 desks in one class he needs to swap between depending on what lesson is being taught. This is again making my son feel uncomfortable due to the fact that he has to move all his items (including a writing slope) between the desks. My son is quite intelligent and even though he was the youngest in his class for Year 2, he was one of the top performers. Now in Year 3 he seems to be just average if not below. When I spoke to his teacher I'm just told that my son is doing fine.
I'm not sure what to do anymore. I don't want to come across as the irritating mum that visits the school all the time, but my concerns for my son is growing. He is always smiling whether happy or sad. He is not aggressive at all in fact the complete opposite. So I'm wondering whether he gets over looked due to the fact that he isn't showing his distress the way any other child would display feeling distressed.
What should we do? Speak to the school again? Think of moving my son to a school with a better understanding of ASD, smaller classes with more one to one support?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. (Apologies for the long post.)
