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Bullying problems.

Ash

Hi all,

i have a 8yead old daughter who has been diagnosed with autism and dyspraxia, she was diagnosed about 2 almost 3years ago now. i moved her to a smaller school which for the first year had a fantastic effect on her, she really thrived, where as in the previous school she really struggled. It broke my heart to see her struggling, hence the move. But now a year on we seem to be going down hill. She's buildimg her walls back up, not talking, standing at the edge of the playground rather than getting involved with the other children. she's never really had friends which I've came to accept, but that was because she was happy that way, but now I feel as though now she's starting to get older the children are seeing more of a difference between them and her and basicallu bullying her. A lot of it she doesn't even notice, but somethings she does and its starting to have a huge negative effect on her. I guess what I'm asking is any advice how I could help her deAl with this. I plan on talking to school about it in the morning but i don't know how that's going to go. 

Another problem I'm having is the school are majorly dragging their feet to get any support for her, for the past month I've been asking for a meeting with the teacher and Senco and still haven't got a date, I want things put in place to help her but they seem in no rush at all. Is there anyone above the school I could talk to who could help this happen? 

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    Children of that age are not very sophisticated and they will be impressionable and it is easy to congregate around the louder more confident children and children with autism will get ignored and pushed to the edges. Her dyspraxia will also mean that she won't be able to impress in the game playing part of olayground life. I remember this fairly well even though my experience was 50 years ago. It is a slippery slope into active bullying but it doesn't sound as though it has got as far as physical and verbal abuse?

    There are good schools and less good schools. Good schools will actively and positively make sure that no child gets left out and feels neglected. Small schools can seem very nice but our experience with our children was that a small school can be managed by a head who is incapable of pregressing to the management of a bigger school. We moved our kids (not autistic but struggled with dyslexia) to a bigger school that had a very good head at that time. Heads come and go and that school then went on to have a poor reputation under a subsequent head.

    Are there any schools in your area that have a special unit or some specialised provision for autistic children within the mainstream school? I know that some secondary schools have this but not sure whether it happens in primaries.

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  • Former Member
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    Children of that age are not very sophisticated and they will be impressionable and it is easy to congregate around the louder more confident children and children with autism will get ignored and pushed to the edges. Her dyspraxia will also mean that she won't be able to impress in the game playing part of olayground life. I remember this fairly well even though my experience was 50 years ago. It is a slippery slope into active bullying but it doesn't sound as though it has got as far as physical and verbal abuse?

    There are good schools and less good schools. Good schools will actively and positively make sure that no child gets left out and feels neglected. Small schools can seem very nice but our experience with our children was that a small school can be managed by a head who is incapable of pregressing to the management of a bigger school. We moved our kids (not autistic but struggled with dyslexia) to a bigger school that had a very good head at that time. Heads come and go and that school then went on to have a poor reputation under a subsequent head.

    Are there any schools in your area that have a special unit or some specialised provision for autistic children within the mainstream school? I know that some secondary schools have this but not sure whether it happens in primaries.

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