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Problems at school.

Dipperdoo

Hi guys,

I'm completely new to this (in more ways than one) so excuse me if I ramble!

I am a mum to an amazing six year old boy, who has recently been diagnosed as being on the Autistic Spectrum. He is incredibly clever and is in year 2 of a mainstream school.

There were issues with his behaviour last year (not listening, shouting and running off) This year is proving more problematic. He is becoming much more violent towards his teachers and classmates (hitting, head butting, spitting and kicking).

The school want to help and they involved the help of an Ed Psych and a local special school the specialises is ASC. The two specialists came up with (different) suggestions and school chose strategies that they thought might work. These strategies included loss of privaledges for what we consider 'autistic outbursts' and taking away previously earned golden time. This led to my son becoming even more frustrated in school and his behaviours escalated.

Purely by chance, a different Ed Psych was in school and staff asked for a meeting to discuss my son and his strategies. This EP was disgusted in some of the strategies put in place and gave some AMAZING advice and strategies to reduce his anxieties and outbursts (including ear defenders, twiddlers, positive behaviour rewards,and a safe space to go to when things got too much. This worked AMAZINGLY. There were only one or two outbursts. Last week was a little more rocky, almost like my son was testing the boundaries so there were a few more outbursts.

I am sure the new strategies put in place will work if school just continue to stick to them (we have adopted the same strategies at home and have noticed a marked improvement in his outbursts).

But

School have had some autism training this week and when dropping my son off at school today was told quite sternly "we've had autism training, things with your son are going to be changing. The head will be in touch."

so here's my predicament. I know my son can control his temper and outbursts with consistency and a little empathy. How can we get this from school if they keep changing the goal posts for him every week and never give a strategy long enough to see if it's working?

please help, I feel so frustrated, helpless and let down. What should I do?

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  • Former Member
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    Don't panic.

    The new ep is actually spot on. Your child needs consistency in knowing where the boundaries but he won't really understand punishment. It just tends to make situations escalate. His outbursts aren't naughtiness they are the accumulation of frustration and sensory overload that will have been building for a while before he explodes. First step is to avoid the situations in the first place. If he then does boil over then he needs to be taken to a quiet place to calm down but this should be a very neutral situation - don't reward him for this but don't punish him either.

    Can you find out more about the training that they have received? Where did they get it from? You need to know as you should be singing from the same song sheet as the school so they should understand that it is in their interests to try and be consistent between home and school.

    It may be that they have had good training and that things will get better rather than worse! So when they say things will change it may be that things will get even better.

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Don't panic.

    The new ep is actually spot on. Your child needs consistency in knowing where the boundaries but he won't really understand punishment. It just tends to make situations escalate. His outbursts aren't naughtiness they are the accumulation of frustration and sensory overload that will have been building for a while before he explodes. First step is to avoid the situations in the first place. If he then does boil over then he needs to be taken to a quiet place to calm down but this should be a very neutral situation - don't reward him for this but don't punish him either.

    Can you find out more about the training that they have received? Where did they get it from? You need to know as you should be singing from the same song sheet as the school so they should understand that it is in their interests to try and be consistent between home and school.

    It may be that they have had good training and that things will get better rather than worse! So when they say things will change it may be that things will get even better.

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