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behaviour issues

mozlady

Hello everyone,

I have a situation which I think could start to become a problem. My 7 year old is just starting to show is anger to other people apart form his dad and I and we have no idea how to deal with it. Since he started back to school in sept he has starting having issues with afterschool  club, going withdrawn when there, not sharing with anyone and fighting with other children when he dosen't get his own way. Today in the middle of the night he was sick and the first thing he said to me this morning is "now i have been sick, i cant go to school" I'm worried he is making up illness to get out of going to school. We have asked him is there is something wrong at school especially afterschool club but he clams up. Then gets frustrated and starts lashing out. Can making up illness normal for a child with ASD?

I have spoken to school and they say his behavior is fine while is class and I they have no idea what it is thats bothering him. What do we do? We have tried talking to him and he just will not entertain talking. He just shuts off

I am getting worried - last night he said he was lonely and he wanted someone to play with but everytime he has someone to play, he wont share and all hell breaks out. He is an only child and proberly going to stay that way because I am getting too old to have anymore children and to be honest can only just cope with him with the way he is. Rencently I heard of an autistic child having a pet dog as a companion is that correct does it work and how do I go about finding out about it?

Any help would be appreciated

worried mum

Moxlady

  • Hi,

    Thank you to you both....

    Sandra - Mod - thank you for the links. I had never thought that the social side of Afterschool club being an issue for him, it makes complete sense though! I must admit when its an issue its when we have a nice day and they go outside to play. Joe seems to act up more on these day mainly because they are entertaining themselves rather than someone actually sat down playing with him. Totally understand why this is an issue for him. Thank you for your input because I never gave that a thought at all.  I will speak to afterschool club and see if they can try and make sure Joe is entertained by something rather than him being left too it. I am very lucky in the respect that school will do whatever he needs to make him happy, which is wonderful and vertually unheard off.

    Bootsy - thank you for empathy, it is so reassuring that there are parents out there experiencing simular situations. I thank you too for your wishes and send them straight back to you. 

    Much love to you both 

    Moxlady  

     

  • So sorry to hear about your child's difficulties with school.

     

    My son constantly had stomach aches and would occasionally make it up to avoid school.  His school weren't very sympathetic (he was diagnosed with ASD at this time).   However, I did relate his 'illnesses' to anxiety. He could not explain what was wrong with school. He had friends, he was doing well academically. There was no apparent problem until my son stopped going to school completely because the effort of trying to fit in with school life became too much it seemed as straight forward as that, from my point of view.

    I can't really offer you advice because I couldn't get my son back into school but I don't think many schools really understand the difficulties of socialising for those with ASD.

    I wish you and your child well.

  • Hello mozlady

    Sorry to hear about the difficulties your son has been having. Just from what you've written I wonder if the difference in your son's behaviour between class and after school club might be to do with after school club being less structured and more social. Here's some general information about behaviour:

    http://www.autism.org.uk/living-with-autism/understanding-behaviour/behaviour-guidelines.aspx

    I hope something there might be of use.

    If you're interested in finding out more about how having a pet dog might be helpful you might want to look at this:

    http://www.dogsforthedisabled.org/2011/04/four-paws-could-give-help-to-children-with-autism/

    I hope you get to the bottom of his worries soon. Let us know how you get on.

    Sandra - mod