Feeling like having son put into care his behaviour is so bad

Hi so sorry that you are feeling this way. I have a seven year old as well. He has severe autism and ADHD and i am a single parent so believe me when i say i know just how hard it can be.

 Have you considered firstly that your son may have another condition on top of the autism....one that might have treatment options?

Secondly is your son recieving enough support in school (a bad time at school can manifest itself at home) My son recieves full 1:1 support at school the entire day and 2:1 whilst on trips due to the severity of his behavioral issues.

 Thirdly have you heard of ABA therapy? You could perhaps contact social services to see if they could reccommend a trained person.

Fourthly how is his speech etc could it just be sheer frustration?

Fithly I suggest that at both home and school you get a person to come and observe him, detailing the before, during and after the unacceptable behaviour event. It could help you pinpoint what is actually setting him off and causing the behaviour it could be something as simple as your wifes perfume!

Good luck if you ever need a chat i'm here xx

I am a parent of a 4yr old son with Autism. Every child is very different on the spectrum; however my son's behaviour vastly improved when he was placed on a gluten free, casein free, soya free diet, under the supervision of a paediatrician. My son has been on a restrictive diet full-time for 1 year and I have no doubt that it has helped him.

My son no longer appears bloated and suffering from intestinal discomfort and his stools appear to be more normal. We also discovered through blood tests that he was lacking in a number of important vitamins and minerals. Again, under the supervision of a paediatrician we also give him supplementation. These supplements have been incorporated gradually as advised, then monitored and observations recorded.

The improvements include better sleep, less anxiety, ability to relax, less stimming, more echolalia and now gradually improved concentration levels. There is no magic ticket, but this may be an option to explore. I feel your distress and wish you all the best.

Good to hear that was helpful CharliesDad. I'm sure other parents and people on the spectrum may share their experiences, hopefully that may help your wife.

You might also want to consider our Parent to Parent service. It's a telephone service that's manned by trained volunteer parents, so it would be a great chance for your wife to talk to other people who've been in similar situations.

Have a look at this link for the number and more details and good luck, hope everything goes well with the visit next week :) -

http://www.autism.org.uk/Our-services/Advice-and-information-services/Parent-to-Parent-Service.aspx

Thanks for the reply, very helpful. I spent a good hour at his school discussing what could be the cause of his anger at the moment. His school we very helpful (they even witnessed him having a massive blowout at school).

There are a couple of things we're going to try, checking that he's not in pain is the first thing. Next month we are getting a home visit from a expert in dealing with agressive children. So hopefully that'll help.

The big problem now is convincing my wife that all this is not pointless and that things will get better and having a child with Autism is not the end of the world, something she feels at the moment.

Thanks for the help.

Hi CharliesDad,

It sounds like right now you're in a very difficult time coping with your son's behaviour, we're really sorry to hear that and I hope other member's are able to offer you some advice.

Can we ask if you're already getting any support for you, your wife and your son? Have you already looked for help through education or social services?

We'd recommend contacting our helpline on 0808 800 4104, or look at some of the details of other ways to contact the line on the webpage -
http://www.autism.org.uk/Our-services/Advice-and-information-services/Autism-Helpline.aspx

There are also other services we offer including advice on community and social service support, you can see more information here - 
http://www.autism.org.uk/our-services/advice-and-information-services.aspx

There's also the possibility that local services may be available that can help. You can search through our Autism Services Directory to see what may be available - 
http://www.autism.org.uk/directory.aspx

You may also want to look at our pages on behaviour, I can't guarantee there would be something that would change what you are experiencing but some of the information may be useful. You can see the section here -
http://www.autism.org.uk/living-with-autism/understanding-behaviour.aspx

We hope some of this information and services is able to help you get the support you need right now.