Hi
I’m a new member. I have no one to speak to about these things so thought i would give this a go 
So my son is 4. I’ve thought he’s had autism a while but I’ve really struggled with getting help or someone to listen to me. He is largely non verbal he can say a few words such as drink, eat, bed so mainly his needs. The last couple of weeks he has been attempting to say more which I am so pleased about. He’s been to speech therapy once then I was told there’s nothing more that can be done at the moment so was discharged. He is very sensory seeking so spends a lot of the time flapping things around such as bits of paper and teddies and just generally walking about babbling to himself. He enjoys a lot of physical stuff like spinning and jumping.
Anyway in July just before he started school (mainstream) I had a meeting with the senco. She referred him for an autism assessment and early help. He started school in September on a reduced timetable until 11am. He did a few weeks of that then they added 15 minutes he didn’t cope well with that as after they came back in from break time he got distressed and would cry until I picked him up so went back to 11am. Today I went for my first team around the family meeting. To say it didn’t go well would be an understatement. It’s nothing I didn’t expect but was still upsetting. The senco have said he doesn’t engage in any learning, the have a specialist going to assess him to see how they can help him in the classroom. She said he spends most of his time outside alone and not interacting, or doing his paper flapping. They’ve started noting down when he hurts others. To me this sounds like frustration as the times he’s doing it is when a “normal” child would just say what it is they want. He scratches and hits mainly the teaching assistant, I feel awful about this but I know he isn’t doing it to be nasty. It is frustration.
I just feel so alone and helpless, I don’t know what to do. He isn’t any trouble at home in fact he’s very happy. Makes me feel so guilty for sending him. I suppose my question is will this ever get better? What’s the likely outcome of all of this? He’s only been there 6 weeks and I feel so deflated and unsure what the future holds for him.
sorry for the long post I just need somewhere to vent to people that understand. Any advice is very welcome 
