Hello
My daughter struggles with eating (restrictive but no one is quite sure if it is arfid or anorexia or a shut down and rules based) and has done since she was 13-she is now 17. She was admitted to hospital for refeeding in 2025 (paeds main hospital) and to restart sertraline. She was subsequently diagnosed autistic last summer but rejects the diagnosis. I have not worked since February 2025 to provide round the clock care to her and my husband has taken a new job because of this to balance our finances which means he is away most of the week and I take her to and from college and eat with her for all meals (she will not eat or drink without having hold me presumably from the trauma of being threatened with us being taken away by nurses if she didn't stop crying whilst in hospital). She manages college but a full day of masking etc is exhausting especially when she cannot understand why she is so tired and why things feel quite difficult for her socially...I am also struggling. I have no network and am often on my own all day/evening when I am not with her. I retrained in a career I loved a few years before she became unwell and would love to work again for some sense of being part of the world. I don't doubt I am autistic/adhd too and that is why my circle is tiny but working has always given me routine and belonging. I worry if i try to return back to work, even for a few hours, she will become severely unwell again and I don't know what to do.