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Subject upsetting my son

Moose

My son is seven, he has just moved into year 3, his teacher has said she thinks he is on the spectrum, 

He is learning about the plague,this is upsetting my son a lot, he has started wetting the bed, he has been sick twice inclass, I think it's anxiety about the subject, his has got even more clingy then normal.

I am worried as I don't know how long the subject is to be taught, the teacher knows about his Autism, but I am worried that it will affect his time at school, as he use to enjoy school, but now I don't know. It's worrying me as I hated school myself, I don't want him to hate his school day's.

  • in reply to Former Member

    I too feel empathy very strongly, I struggle to let anyone know how I feel and therefore come across(in my mind) as being insensitive.

    I feel those with autism are more prone to empathy at another's suffering but show little sign of it,I also feel I see and understand their suffering but cannot understand why they are upset. I have given blood for check ups and giving it is fine it is afterwards I think to much about what blood is and how important it is and what it consists of which causes me black out,not feinting but totally out,low pulse etc,took three nurses and a doctor to bring me round last time,had a trip in the ambulance lights and sirens, got checked out all ok? Doctor couldn't explain it,she reassured me it wasn't just a squimmis man thing. Very bizarre.

  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Glad that there is an end in sight. One further thought. I have always been terribly squeamish and have fainted when people have just talked about broken bones or operations and such. I always felt such sympathy/empathy for the sufferer of the real problem that I imagined what it would be like for me to have the problem. Do other people here have the same problem? Did Moose's son feel that he was going to get the plague and possibly die from it?

  • Thank you for the tips, my son has just said tomorrow is the last day of the plague, fingers crossed he can get settled in . Hopefully the bed wetting, sickness and worrying sort them self out. We are looking at maybe the doctors for help with his anxiety.

    I shall tel them about the suspected Autism, so let's hope he might get a diagnosis. Will keep everyone posted.

  • Hi Moose,

       You may find that it's trigger word or image that brings on his anxiety and sickness. I know with my own son that thoughts can often be associative and may be linked to something which to most, can appear unrelated, so you need to get to the bottom of his thinking.

    As socks says, if you talk to your son you may find whats triggering the anxiety. I would definately talk to the teacher and find out how long the subject is going to last. If it's a full term project then he's likely to be uncomfortable for some time unless the issue is addressed. If it's a simple as blocking an image thats upsetting him then, it's likely that it's doable and will make the subject a lot more managable.

    Coogybear

  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Talk to his teacher and ask them what they think is happening. Teachers don't like kids being sick in class so they may want to avoid any recurrence! They must be able to excuse him from this topic.

    You also need to talk to your son about what is worrying him. He will need reassurance that it doesn't happen nowadays. Does he have a clear idea about how long ago the plague happened? At that age he may have got the idea that it was within living memory.