What, when and how to tell your child that s/he's autistic

Hello,

We're in a bit of a quandry. We have two daughthers, 2yo and 7yo, both have a diagnosis of HFA. The 2yo is very physical and sees other kids as obstacles to be pushed, shoved, bitten, whatever it takes to get or do what she wants. Following various incidents in play areas we're contemplating getting one of these "I have autism" t-shirts, either from the NAS or elsewhere, along with a box of hand out cards. But, just a bit concerned the 7yo will ask "What is autism?". This falls firmly into the box of other "how do I answer" questions such as "Who is God?". As yet, the 7yo has never asked anything or indicated she has any awareness that she is different or treated differently to any of the other kids, but this is only a matter of time, maybe a long time, but it will come.

This set me wondering. Do we pre-empt her asking and just tell her straight, especially as her younger sister is a bit of a sore thumb so to speak, do we drip feed information as and when she needs it? How do you tell somebody with a communication disorder that they have a communication disorder?

Any insight from parents in a similar situation particularily welcome!

 

Regards,

Mark Leavesley

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  • There is an Arthur cartoon that has a character with Aspergers and the cartoon explains what Aspergers is. You can get it on youtube (its in 4 sections) and is called When Carl met George - George and the missing puzzle piece. I have to confess not to have watched it all through but I heard of a child who watched it and ran and got their parent to watch it as they figured out their own diagnosis.  

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  • There is an Arthur cartoon that has a character with Aspergers and the cartoon explains what Aspergers is. You can get it on youtube (its in 4 sections) and is called When Carl met George - George and the missing puzzle piece. I have to confess not to have watched it all through but I heard of a child who watched it and ran and got their parent to watch it as they figured out their own diagnosis.  

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