This is my first time here, I am hoping someone can give me a bit of advice as I am so worried about my son. He is 14 nearly 15, diagnosed in January. We are also waiting now gor an ADHD assessment. He is very clever and at a highly academic grammar school. We have been worried about him for 5/6 years, and with his diagnosis it is much clearer what he has been struggling with and why. The school is helping - a bit. But the school workload, exam pressure etc is mounting. He has refused to go to school a few times and the school have now let him have reset days which helps. But I don't think it is enough. He does most of his homework, but doesn't catch up after he misses days and won't revise for exams. He doesn't appear to care at all, which I had thought was a reaction to overwhelm. But I think it goes deeper - he says he sees no future, no point in exams, cannot imagine working. He has three GCSE exams this year for RE, other subjects will be next year. The first is on Tuesday, and he has done nothing. He had Thursday and Friday as reset days, he did no work yesterday and we left him to it, which I hoped would help him recover.Today I asked how I could help him, he said he didn't know. I try to support. I have offered to help him, to help organise the work, to sit with him, but he shouts at me. I have bought a whiteboard for him, and try to give him advance warning of things, and suggested we plan out schoolwork on that, so there is a visual plan but he doesn't want that. All the advice talks about organisation and giving control, which we try. I don't know what else to do. I feel like I am failing massively.
