How do you wake you your teenage girl in the mornings?

My daughter has not been able to attend school since January; she found the transition to comprehensive school extremely difficult particularly the social side. We are now having a break and reset from school, potentially looking at an alternative way of learning. A major difficulty at the moment is waking her in the mornings (as well as helping her to settle at a reasonable time). We have tried lots of different strategies to helping her settle earlier at night but i think becoming a teenager along with having a very busy brain makes it difficult. This obviously impacts waking in the mornings. I'm trying to encourage a daily routine of waking and sleeping times but have a battle in the morning when waking her before she feels ready to leave her bed. If I let her come round when she is ready with repeated gentle reminders of the time she will eventually wake and is calm (around 10.30am). If I push her with any demands like, its time to get up, and persist with the request, she becomes dysregulated which can then turn into a long meltdown which she finds difficulty calming from. We are trying to keep demands low as I believe she is in a process of recovering from the trauma of starting comprehensive school (and masking for many years). Any advice would be much appreciated? What are your morning routines?

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  • Welcome

    I've got a bedtime routine that helps me calm down and relax before sleep (maybe you could do something similar)?

    My routine consists of:

    1. Having a camomile tea at 7.30 
    2. 7.30-8 tidying things away (if I'm in the middle of something making sure it's not spread all over the place)
    3. Turning electronics off and making sure curtains are closed from 8pm 
    4. Lying down to go to sleep so 9.30pm

    The things I can do between 8 and 9.30 are ones that don't require much thinking and don't require screens e.g reading, word searches, diamond painting, colouring in, listening to classic FM

    I know everyone is different and your daughter might have other interests which might help calm her down. I find doing this helps me get a good night's sleep so I'm more able to get up when my alarm goes off (8am)

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  • Welcome

    I've got a bedtime routine that helps me calm down and relax before sleep (maybe you could do something similar)?

    My routine consists of:

    1. Having a camomile tea at 7.30 
    2. 7.30-8 tidying things away (if I'm in the middle of something making sure it's not spread all over the place)
    3. Turning electronics off and making sure curtains are closed from 8pm 
    4. Lying down to go to sleep so 9.30pm

    The things I can do between 8 and 9.30 are ones that don't require much thinking and don't require screens e.g reading, word searches, diamond painting, colouring in, listening to classic FM

    I know everyone is different and your daughter might have other interests which might help calm her down. I find doing this helps me get a good night's sleep so I'm more able to get up when my alarm goes off (8am)

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