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PDA pathological Demand Avoidance

JOJO4

I've been reading up on PDA and it explains a lot about my girls behaviour. Does anyone else relate to this?

I always thought she was stubborn or put things down to sensory issues or even being lazy

She can't do simple chores all my kids have chores but my girl will distract starting with she's not well or she starts doing something else or she tries to distract us from the task at hand and if that doesn't work it goes to crying stimming or anger and aggression and It can be something as little as clean your room or wash your face, get dressed pick that up.

I can't explain properly does anyone as parents struggle with this or have any advice?

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  • in reply to profdanger

    I've often questioned PDA, I think resistance to parental demands is quite normal, I just refused to give in to it and dug my heels in back at my daughter, it all worked out in the end, sometimes it's just a phase they go through, especially in larger families it's a way of getting attention even if it's negative attention, but I don't think that you have to be careful that this dosen't set a pattern for them in later life.

  • in reply to JOJO4

    Oh yes. Again, I didn’t read all of it, but it helped me to understand that my child wasn’t avoiding demands quite to the same degree as other children are capable of.