Hi all
not really sure how to explain this but my son age 5 (first year at school) ADHD & Autism got given a book bag Friday on break up from school I asked what it was and was told “it’s his turn for book for a week” get it home it’s got a soft toy penguin in books and a game - my sons initial reaction was over excitement & then instantly meltdown that the penguin has to go back and to be honest it’s caused chaos the whole of the school break as he is getting emotional and upset at bed time that the penguin has to go back - on reflection his reaction makes sense as we can’t even count down to Christmas as it causes overwhelm his school are supportive so I’m sure when I speak to them Monday and ask for pre warning to get him use to the idea going forward they’ll happily accommodate but I just feel caught off guard it’s almost like ok we’re good and something so trivial to most causes chaos - think maybe I just needed to air out loud in a community that gets it
side note any tips on how to discuss death would be a help as he seems obsessed with it at the minute stemming from asking about his middle name (he’s named after my grandad who died before he was born) and since he’s often saying he doesn’t want me to die and came home from school a couple of weeks back asking me to take him to a grave yard when I asked why he said his friend Mila hasn’t been at school for a couple of days and he think she may have died I advised he had missed school for a couple of days when he got Covid I’m sure she’s just unwell and will be back at school I’m just worrying I’m not ahead of him on these subjects and not thinking through my responses when he asks questions as I’m learning he’s very literal and deep and you can’t just palm him off so I get caught off guard
sorry for the ramble but any advice would be much appreciated
