Explaining things to Son with A S C and language communication delays

When my Son wants to play with something that belongs to his Dad which he can't break as it will.get him.into trouble at work or my Son wants to play or stay up.late but his Dad needs to.get to bed for work,  his Dad will.give a few words of how he's effected personally by the situation,  my Son lashes out,  what's a better way to explain things to my Son? He's nine has Autism Language and communication delays.