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Advice needed please

Seapea

My son is 18, he’s is autistic, has adhd and has learning disabilities. 
earlier this year he started to say the odd inappropriate thing, such as asking me to marry him. He would then immediately say ‘I don’t know why I said that’

Today he has said something really inappropriate and apologised for it, then continued to repeat it over and over. When he says or does something (repeatedly putting his phone down the toilet recently) he says that ‘my brain made me do it’ He gets quite upset about it but doesn’t seem able to be able to help it. 

I suppose my question is, is this something quite common? 
I feel so sad for him, and can see his frustration. 
I guess any advice or reassurance is needed. 
many thanks. 

Parents

  • Good afternoon from America, Seapea.

    I haven’t heard of this specific sort of behavior before, but I do know from experience that ASD/ADHD can cause impulsivity. Also, I do believe that repetitious behavior isn’t uncommon with ASD. That’s sad that he seems to mourn his behavior after the fact.

    I’ve had difficulty with certain phrases getting stuck in my head (ex. one time I had the phrase “I’m the king of the hill” repeating in my brain for like a year) and sometimes it takes a lot of willpower not to blurt them out. I usually don’t even know where the phrase came from or how it came to be stuck in my mind. I guess that is the closest I know to having a similar experience.

    I’m not sure, but perhaps an Autistic-specialized therapy would be a good option here? Maybe he and a therapist could work on the impulsivity and internalizing thoughts.

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  • Good afternoon from America, Seapea.

    I haven’t heard of this specific sort of behavior before, but I do know from experience that ASD/ADHD can cause impulsivity. Also, I do believe that repetitious behavior isn’t uncommon with ASD. That’s sad that he seems to mourn his behavior after the fact.

    I’ve had difficulty with certain phrases getting stuck in my head (ex. one time I had the phrase “I’m the king of the hill” repeating in my brain for like a year) and sometimes it takes a lot of willpower not to blurt them out. I usually don’t even know where the phrase came from or how it came to be stuck in my mind. I guess that is the closest I know to having a similar experience.

    I’m not sure, but perhaps an Autistic-specialized therapy would be a good option here? Maybe he and a therapist could work on the impulsivity and internalizing thoughts.

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  • in reply to profdanger

    Good evening profdanger,

    Thank you so much for taking time to reply. 

    I think he does need some therapy. He’s drifting between child and adult services at the moment, on a waiting list. But I have requested something. I think the added difficulty is the combination of learning disabilities and autism, he struggles to explain exactly how he feels and thinks. 


    Thank you again, it’s interesting to get the perspective from someone with first hand experience.