Sister at wits end and seeking support/advice

I am seeking advice and help for my brother, who is currently living with me. I am unsure what is the best type of support he needs at this time.

For some background, He is 22 years old with a diagnosis of autism and has recently been sectioned under mental health 3 times within 2025 including one stay of 3 months. He has a history of drug misuse.

He has recently as of 31st December, been arrested for buying illegal chemical substances in which resulted in a house raid of my home. He is currently on bail with no charge until 31st March 2026 whilst they look further into evidence. The officer told me he has been referred to his GP as a vulnerable person but I am unsure what this entails for support.

Lewis is a very smart and clever young man, in which I think he doesn’t realise the consequences of some of the things he likes doing. He often tells me “no one knows what it feels like to be me”.

Before he was sectioned in 2025, he has a stable job working at EVRI warehouse in which he went from temp agency to permanent staff and was on the path to progress. He was living in London with my father after our mum passed away in 2023. Lewis expresses interest to work again but lacks the motivation to apply in which that means I have to make sure we are sending lots of applications off together.

He is quite independent in terms of that he can cook, clean, shower himself. Although his routine is not regular and will often not shower until reminded (can go days without showering) so lacks the understanding of basic hygiene. He will also eat irregular meals sometimes not eating for a day. His main signs of autism are no eye contact, 2 minutes or so to process a question, the food preferences (no wet food, everything cooked very thoroughly to be almost burnt).

I am in process of  signing  him up for some local social clubs for people with autism which includes gaming; swimming and football. 
I really don’t know what his future holds and I am really seeking help as I am at wits end to support him.

  • I use drugs and alcohol too 25 yrs old. I can't stop I hate being sober. Dunno why. I like being high and drunk it makes me feel something other than pain that is why I do it. Maybe there isn't an answer. Maybe this is all there is. 

  • i just want to say that you’re doing a really good job. It seems like you’re doing everything in your power to help support your brother and you should be proud of yourself. I think supporting him with getting back into employment and encouraging him to attend social clubs are both amazing things.

    Your citizens advice borough might be a good place to speak to. They should be able to signpost you to local organisations that may be relevant to your brother’s situation. Speaking to your GP they may also be able to refer your brother to certain community support. 

    Having an adult social care assessment could be of interest as well. If you just type in adult social care assessment into Google there should be a gov or nhs page advising on how to access this. This is another service that could really help find more specific assistance that could aid your brother with specific issues he’s facing.

    All the best for you and your brother you’ve got this !!

  • I haven’t any advice. 

    I wanted to offer my support and best wishes to you and your brother. I hope you can get practical help as it is a lot to deal with on your own.

  • Dear LeannaOrthodoxou,

    Welcome to the community- it is great to have you as part of this. Thank you for reaching out, it is great that you want to seek help to support your brother. I hope you find the online community is a helpful place for you. 

    It may be worth taking a look at some of the advice and guidance pages that I have listed below:

    Criminal justice and police this may help you understand the processes and support available in the criminal justice system

    Seeking help with mental health 

    Addiction

    The referral to the GP can mean different things for different people and situations but it sounds like a really positive step the police have taken as it means the GP will now be aware that they need to give extra support to your brother and your family.

    It is a great idea to sign him up to local clubs in the area that could support him and create a stronger social network. If you wanted you could take a look at the NAS Autism Services Directory - you can look up what else is available in your local area.

    As long as your brother wants to and is over 18, he would be welcome to join the online community but families are also very much welcome here.

    Wishing you and your family the best for 2026,

    Olivia Mod