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Advice needed please!

Dani1984

Hi. 
I have a 6 year old son who’s diagnosed with autism, being assessed for ADHD and learning disability, and sensory issues. 

weekends are so incredibly hard :( 

how do I stop him violently kicking everything as hard as he can? Both feet - headboards, doors, cupboard doors, radiators, the bath… it’s constant :( his obsession at the moment is water…. So he’sTired faceonstantly turning on taps Tired face 

He gets EXTREMELY frustrated with the tv when he can’t find what he wants and screams non stop :( 

any advice would be greatly appreciated. 

im struggling so bad :( 

  • The same with my son. He was becoming increasingly frustrated at not being able to control or look for, what he views. I bought him a tablet with a thick rubber casing. He's calmed down much more, now that he has some control and ability to choose what to watch. (with supervision) The thick casing helps when it does get thrown in frustration but this is rare now.

    I can't help with the kicking but as noted, taking his foot ware off might deter him from kicking hard surfaces. I hope things have improved in the last month since you posted this.

  • do you have a visual timetable for at home to show him what his routine is for the day 

  • Dani1984 said:
    how do I stop him violently kicking everything as hard as he can? Both feet

    You could take off his shoes when indoors so that he will find it hurts to hit his own feet hard - I suspect it will soon stop being a habit when he discovers this.

    This could be a form of demand avoidance - do you find it happens when he is about to have a bath, go to bed or some other transition activity?

    If so then this article may have some advice:

    https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/behaviour/demand-avoidance

    Noted forms of resistance include:

    aggression (usually as a last resort, when other forms of resistance have failed. For example, pushing someone or throwing something away; hitting or kicking; biting. Aggression may be a form of resistance, but it may also be a panic response to overwhelming anxiety.) 

    Getting in touch with a child psychologist who understands autism may be a good move if you can afford to do this - there are a lot of things that stem from autism / ADHD that their knowledge and understanding can potentially help you with.

    Good luck.