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Support to find 19 year old work

Asdmum_666

Good afternoon.

I’m new to this and hoping someone can help me because I’m at a loss. My son is 19 and has autism. He can interact with others and has developed good coping mechanisms. I’ve spent most of his life handling everything myself and not really accepting support. Now I’m at an impasse as we try to get him into work, but nowhere seems willing to take him on. He passed his GCSEs and a Level 2 course at college. He clearly needs extra support and doesn’t always understand things the first time, but companies these days don’t seem to want to bother. I need him to be able to live independently. I’m feeling so overwhelmed and upset with myself that I can’t make it happen for him like others his age. I feel like I’m failing him.

Getting a job is literally the last step we need to take.

Any advice or any links to places you know may be able to help us would be brilliant. 

If you have read this far thank you 

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  • I was in a different situation,  because I come from a poor and dysfunctional family, so I was obviously forced to start working at the age 15 and nobody cared how much stress I had. I always do the low salary jobs,  retail wasn't a nightmare,  but it became one, when my boss started expecting me to change the tone of my voice (apparently monotonous) and got angry that I don't get cues. So I lost that job. Then i was a cashier and it was a sensory hell I really felt like dying after each shift of 8 hours sitting there and my head was spinning from seeing so many people and strong lights and the noise from scanners. Tgere was also McDonald's,  maybe not the worst one as a whole, but due to sensory issues i ended up in psych. Hospital. I worked on a call center and it was tge worst. Of course again monotonous tone of my voice and not catching cues. But at least git prised fir good analytical skills,  attention to details and catching frauds. Now I finally have a job that suits me and does not damage me mentally. It's in a warehouse of a hardware store. My manager is understanding and other colleagues too, again my attention to details,  strong focus, catching transportation damages immediately etc are my strengths.  I graduated bachelor degree in logistics and Spedition,  my former colleagues do good careers, but I can't. I can't even drive a car. I'm not sure, what would your son like to do, but maybe it would be good to convince him to start with something smaller and then try something more ambitious. Maybe tgere are some organisations that help autistic people find job? There are companies who are more oriented on hiring people with various conditions.  Mine is like that, I'm not the only one there, there are more people with both mental and physical conditions. 

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  • I was in a different situation,  because I come from a poor and dysfunctional family, so I was obviously forced to start working at the age 15 and nobody cared how much stress I had. I always do the low salary jobs,  retail wasn't a nightmare,  but it became one, when my boss started expecting me to change the tone of my voice (apparently monotonous) and got angry that I don't get cues. So I lost that job. Then i was a cashier and it was a sensory hell I really felt like dying after each shift of 8 hours sitting there and my head was spinning from seeing so many people and strong lights and the noise from scanners. Tgere was also McDonald's,  maybe not the worst one as a whole, but due to sensory issues i ended up in psych. Hospital. I worked on a call center and it was tge worst. Of course again monotonous tone of my voice and not catching cues. But at least git prised fir good analytical skills,  attention to details and catching frauds. Now I finally have a job that suits me and does not damage me mentally. It's in a warehouse of a hardware store. My manager is understanding and other colleagues too, again my attention to details,  strong focus, catching transportation damages immediately etc are my strengths.  I graduated bachelor degree in logistics and Spedition,  my former colleagues do good careers, but I can't. I can't even drive a car. I'm not sure, what would your son like to do, but maybe it would be good to convince him to start with something smaller and then try something more ambitious. Maybe tgere are some organisations that help autistic people find job? There are companies who are more oriented on hiring people with various conditions.  Mine is like that, I'm not the only one there, there are more people with both mental and physical conditions. 

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