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Support to find 19 year old work

Asdmum_666

Good afternoon.

I’m new to this and hoping someone can help me because I’m at a loss. My son is 19 and has autism. He can interact with others and has developed good coping mechanisms. I’ve spent most of his life handling everything myself and not really accepting support. Now I’m at an impasse as we try to get him into work, but nowhere seems willing to take him on. He passed his GCSEs and a Level 2 course at college. He clearly needs extra support and doesn’t always understand things the first time, but companies these days don’t seem to want to bother. I need him to be able to live independently. I’m feeling so overwhelmed and upset with myself that I can’t make it happen for him like others his age. I feel like I’m failing him.

Getting a job is literally the last step we need to take.

Any advice or any links to places you know may be able to help us would be brilliant. 

If you have read this far thank you 

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  • Hi, I'm 18 and have autism. When I started at sixth form I wanted to get a job because all my friends had 'grown up money' and I usually only had about £20 from my mum. I tried on Indeed for ages with no luck even though everyone was saying thats where they got their jobs. What I noticed was a lot of the 'questionnaires' companies put on indeed were always very similar to the autism assessment and I do not think that is a coincidence. It very much depends what kind of work he is looking for but when I eventually got my first job it was at my local pub and I got it by going in and asking if they were hiring. Even though places do post jobs online it seems that independant companies prefer someone to 'show willing', not sure how that works with chain stores though.

    When I started my job I found that my manager was very understanding and always happy to repeat information. Bar work is also quite repetetive and predictable, which I enjoy. Obviously I understand that he may want a job in the field that he studied at college but maybe starting with a part time job could help build some confidence, as well as starting a small savings fund. 

    Also, I just want to say judging by the fact your worrying this much about him, you're probably doing a good job as a parent. My mum always worries that she's failed me because sometimes she gets it wrong but always remember, you're human and as long as you love him and you do your best, he'll be fine. Sometimes, autistic people have a slightly different path than others as it can take us longer to achieve things that others can do easily. It can be frustrating but he's not alone and there will be someone willing to give him the support he needs, it just might take some time to find them.

    I hope this was helpful or reassuring in some way

    :)

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  • Hi, I'm 18 and have autism. When I started at sixth form I wanted to get a job because all my friends had 'grown up money' and I usually only had about £20 from my mum. I tried on Indeed for ages with no luck even though everyone was saying thats where they got their jobs. What I noticed was a lot of the 'questionnaires' companies put on indeed were always very similar to the autism assessment and I do not think that is a coincidence. It very much depends what kind of work he is looking for but when I eventually got my first job it was at my local pub and I got it by going in and asking if they were hiring. Even though places do post jobs online it seems that independant companies prefer someone to 'show willing', not sure how that works with chain stores though.

    When I started my job I found that my manager was very understanding and always happy to repeat information. Bar work is also quite repetetive and predictable, which I enjoy. Obviously I understand that he may want a job in the field that he studied at college but maybe starting with a part time job could help build some confidence, as well as starting a small savings fund. 

    Also, I just want to say judging by the fact your worrying this much about him, you're probably doing a good job as a parent. My mum always worries that she's failed me because sometimes she gets it wrong but always remember, you're human and as long as you love him and you do your best, he'll be fine. Sometimes, autistic people have a slightly different path than others as it can take us longer to achieve things that others can do easily. It can be frustrating but he's not alone and there will be someone willing to give him the support he needs, it just might take some time to find them.

    I hope this was helpful or reassuring in some way

    :)

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