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Talking to 4.5yo about ASD assessment

ukasddad

My 4.5yo boy knows he's different - I've told him his memory is special, and he knows that his behavioural issues aren't typical, and that his school experience (1h/day, 2 staff assigned to him) is atypical also.

We're hoping to have our private assessment in the next month.

He needs to know what's happening in advance. What do I tell him about the assessment? We're told you get a result on the day, and because of his twin it may be a one parent event, so there's a chance he would be present during receiving a diagnosis (or not, as the case may be). Should I work to avoid that? We don't normally offer iPad and headphones, but would that be worth doing?

What do I tell him about the process? What do I tell him if he is diagnosed, or isn't, or it's unclear?

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  • Essentially i would approach discussing the assessment with your son like this: ‘I can see that school is sometimes difficult and tiring for you - and that’s why you get a bit more help than some of the other children. As we want you to get the very best help and the right help to help you to be able to enjoy school and make it easier for you - we’re going to meet someone whose going to help us to understand how best to make being at school easier and nicer for you’. 
    This is essentially true. At 4 years old I don’t think you really need to discuss the diagnosis in itself straightaway. You can get to explaining that more gradually over time. 

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  • Essentially i would approach discussing the assessment with your son like this: ‘I can see that school is sometimes difficult and tiring for you - and that’s why you get a bit more help than some of the other children. As we want you to get the very best help and the right help to help you to be able to enjoy school and make it easier for you - we’re going to meet someone whose going to help us to understand how best to make being at school easier and nicer for you’. 
    This is essentially true. At 4 years old I don’t think you really need to discuss the diagnosis in itself straightaway. You can get to explaining that more gradually over time. 

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