Advice dealing with hurtful comments and aggressive behaviour please

Hi,

  1. This is my first post, my 8 yo son has just been diagnosed.  He has recently begun using very hurtful an inappropriate language towards family and friends and not just me.  He has often wished me dead, says he hates me etc and has done for a couple of years now.  However, he has begun to say these things to other family members and it's really difficult to hear.  He will often tell his older brother to kill himself or wishes him dead.  Not only is this hurtful language directed at more people now,it is becoming more elaborate.  For example when it came to bedtime this evening he told me that he hopes the house catches fire and it burns down with us all in it whilst we sleep. 

I ignore the hurtful comments and remain calm but this is having no affect on the behaviour and he gets increasingly angry when I fail to respond emotionally.  It is usually at this point where he will lash out violently. 

Can anybody please offer any advice on dealing with this? I am concerned that if the wrong person. Hears such comments ts or he begins to use this language at school that it could have a significant negative impact on him and us as a family.  

Thank you for reading, I am so happy to be here and communicating with other parents in the same boat

Frin 

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  • Hello Frin, it sounds like you may need the help of a child psychotherapist with experience of working with autistic children.

    I don't think these are available on the NHS but it is worth checking with your GP and school SENCO as to what resources they can bring.

    From what I have heard from others I don't think there is much free help that would be suitable here but the Advice And Guidance links at the top of the page have lots of resources you can check.

    My suspicion is that you will need to go prvately to get meaningful help but I hope you can find a specialist who can make a difference for you all.

    Good luck.

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