Stimming

Hello all, hope somebody can offer up some advice.

I made very different choices than the family (nothing criminal lol) and it has made me a bit of a black sheep so i don't see parts of my family to frequently, although I would like to. I have an autistic nephew who is 14 now. Embarrassingly I would not consider myself to be particularly clued up on all matters ASD. Some background on him He is diagnosed with ADHD and Autism. If you did not have experience of autism and met him there is a good chance you would not notice which is part of why he struggles with it because he really does fly under the radar it was very difficult for my sister to get his diagnosis.

My questions: He does not stim and does nothing that overtly looks like this kind of behaviour in home or school.... Until he is with me. If i didn't stop him he would quite literally sit next to me for hours rocking and gently headbutting the top of my arm. He does this really gently and i usually leave him to it for a little bit as he is isn't going with enough force to harm himself. I left him to it one time to see if he would just get bored and I clock him at just over an hour before I felt like i was doing something wrong and stopped him. why me? do I allow it (it annoys my sister)? Do I stop it?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated 

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  • Hiya, bunny. Thanks for the reply.

    I only see them every 2/3 months and its always caused a bit of tension that i am 'the chosen one' . My sis and brother in law are always complaining because they just have a grumpy teenager that does not come off his PC and wont do as he is told. I come round and he comes straight of his PC dives on me and basically becomes a Labrador for a couple of hours. it especially annoys his dad, which i understand. but what can i do.