Hi all,
I am really new to all this, my Ds was diagnosed in January with autism we have recently had ADHD tendenacies added and we are a waiting assesment on whether he does indeed have ADHD as well as ASD.
Recently i have been left feeling disappointed by our school, i do not know who to turn to for help, when i approach the school i get shot down in flames.
The most recent issues:
My son has sensory issues which the school are fully aware of, yet they are still trying to get him eating food they know he doesnt tolerate, my son has expressed feeling forced "Mrs TA forced me, i didnt like it, it was goppy and nasty" this normally results in him being increasingly picky at home.
on picking my ds up and taking him home discovering he had had an accident in his pants (number 2s) which he had clearly been sat in a while, when spoken to at home this was the answer "it was an accident, he had asked 2 different teachers to go to the toilet during rehersals for their end of year assembly", ds requires help when using the bathroom especially when it comes to number 2s, he went through a stage of trying to hold it just so he could avoid doing it at school, again this issue has been raised before and the school are aware yet it continues to happen.
Ds comes home with bumps and scraps with no explanation........ i always believed a TA was watching him as if left he ends up being picked on, isolated, or sometimes wound up by other children resulting in angry out breaks, that added to the fact he is very clumbsy and doesn't tell/express when he is hurt.
Illness, not being believed when informing school ds has expressed feeling unwell, this happens all the time, he now gets marked unauthorised if he had an upset tummy as they refuse to believe what we are saying, my ds rarely expresses or comes across ill (adhd means he is hyper even when ill) to other people you have to know him well enough to recognise when he is ill.
EP where to start............ i have been expressing my ds has had learning difficulties since pre-school, yet the EP (with schools encouragment) has stepped back because the autism advisory service are apparently involved (not to mention her high work load which we have been led to feel is the real reason). Ds in on p7 level and moving into year 2 in Sept, yet the school do not listen to our concerns, they and others would much rather blame it on him "losing a year" after the lose of his brother last year. A whole load of nonsense when i have been expressing concerns with his learning since he was around 3 years old, previous excuse was his lack of understanding and language skills (no longer an issue SALT have said his use of language is finally at an acceptable level)or blamed on his behavioural issues and the fact he really fights when he doesn't want to do something, we fear next year it will be blamed on the arrival of his little sister (due end Sept). they almost refuse to asses for a learning disability.
The list goes on :-( i just do not know where to start, or who to go to? we really want to get everything sorted but just don't know where to start. Being new to all these i have no idea on regulations etc
Thank you to anyone who takes the time to read this and has any helpful advice.
