Co parenting of ASD child not working

NAS78463 2 months ago

Hi there,

My daughter is 8 and has been diagnosed with ASD. She lives with me 60% of the time and 40% with her dad, who is unsupportive of her diagnosis — either not accepting it or rejecting the label, and therefore not making any adaptations for her needs.

This has led to her refusing to go to his house on several occasions, and the situation is worsening. I spend a lot of time trying to help her feel able to go, but when I raise concerns with him, he often reacts negatively or makes her feel guilty for speaking to me.

I’m really at a loss and would appreciate any advice or guidance on what I can do to support her and manage this situation.

Thanks,

Stuart333 2 months ago

Perhaps she masks with him, so he doesn't see it.

Or perhaps he just thinks the best thing is to just try to be normal as it's the best preparation for the world to come, even if it is uncomfortable.
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190E(Taylor’s version) 2 months ago in reply to Martin

And thats just the ones we know about enough famous people Show traits and may or may not be one of us
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Martin 2 months ago

It seems like your ex has only negative views on autism. Try pointing out all the autistics who are successful like: Bill Gates, Tim Burton, Sir Anthony Hopkins, Daryl Hannah, Greta Thunberg, Dan Ackroyd, Chris Packham etc. Also the great figures of the past who showed autistic traits: Albert Einstein, Charles Darwin, Mozart, Picasso, Isaac Newton etc.
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Anna Mod 2 months ago

Hello NAS78463,

Thank you for your post. We have Advice and Guidance pages which may offer some support to you. Please feel free to explore the different topics but as a starting point I wonder whether the "After Diagnosis" section may help. Please find the link here:

https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/diagnosis/after-diagnosis

I hope something helps.

With best wishes,

Anna Mod
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190E(Taylor’s version) 2 months ago

Ok let me tell you my personal experiance I refused for a very short time to believe my son has asd becuase of the stereotypes he didn’t show and in turn i refused that I could be autistic too but now I embrace it
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