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vicjoy

Hello, i already  have a 10 year old son with autism. I have 2 neurotypical daughters, and a 3 year old son. My 3 year old has been seeing a speech therapist for 1 year, last week she told me she was refering him to a language delay clinic. I questioned her about her thoughts (she knows my 10 year old) she said she knew that i had experience of these circumstances, and my 3 year old is totally different to my 10 year old, but the spectrum was vast. Which says it all.  My 3 year old is socialble, he plays with other children, and also does imaginitive play.  I know i am probably  deluding myself, but he doesn't have any traits other that language delay to suggest autism. My fear is he will see a specialist and the will diagnose him, can i refuse a diagnosis, or at least delay it until i am satisfied he is on the spectrum? My son is not the only experience i have, my parents and sister all do adult placement, so i have lived with aspergers and autism since the age of 17, i am now 37. Any thoughts would be appreciated. Vicky

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  • Hi Vicjoy

    There are so many people (adults and children) without an official diagnosis who manage without one.   A diagnosis would obviously open up help and support for your son (if there is any help and support available).  Many people would obviously say that a diagnosis would be better before your son started school so that any help or support could be in place when he got there.  However it is a purely personal choice for you.  You have experienced Aspergers and Autism for some time and are probably much more experienced than me, and only you will really know how much of a help a diagnosis has actually been.  From  a personal point of view I think that a diagnosis helped my family to get support but may not actually have helped my son who is on the spectrum because he has struggled terribly with the fact that he is not like everyone else.  I don't know if this helps but I think that you know your son better than anyone and you have to go with your gut instinct as to what is best for him.

    All the best 

    ColinCat

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  • Hi Vicjoy

    There are so many people (adults and children) without an official diagnosis who manage without one.   A diagnosis would obviously open up help and support for your son (if there is any help and support available).  Many people would obviously say that a diagnosis would be better before your son started school so that any help or support could be in place when he got there.  However it is a purely personal choice for you.  You have experienced Aspergers and Autism for some time and are probably much more experienced than me, and only you will really know how much of a help a diagnosis has actually been.  From  a personal point of view I think that a diagnosis helped my family to get support but may not actually have helped my son who is on the spectrum because he has struggled terribly with the fact that he is not like everyone else.  I don't know if this helps but I think that you know your son better than anyone and you have to go with your gut instinct as to what is best for him.

    All the best 

    ColinCat

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