I'm frustrated!!

It's hard to know where to start! My son is almost 3 and has been diagnosed with autism - they're not sure what kind yet as his development is significantly delayed (alomost half of what it should be) so it's hard for them to assess him properly.

I'm frustrated because I feel like I'm surrounded by people who are (to some extent) supportive (although this very rarely translates into any practical help) but that whenever I have a day (like today!) were I'm just sad about his diagnosis, that I come in for a load of flack about how I should get over it and be happy that I have a healthy baby and that given a few years he'll be fine and if I just stopped comparing him to his sister (which I'd like to say I don't!) I'd be much happier.

Why does everyone around me seem to feel that it's such a terrible crime for me just to want to feel sad about it for a little while before I pull myself together (also everyone's advice!!) and carry on?

I suppose all I want is for someone to give me a hug, say "it's fine - have a good cry, feel sad and then get cracking again" - it's not a lot to ask for is it?

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  • Hi

    My 4 year old son was diagnosed on Wednesday so i think i have a pretty good idea of how you feel.  Its like your son is autistic -now go and get on with it! Talk about feeling inadequate.  After the first 24hrs i stopped crying and now i am trying to look forward.  Even coming on a website like this has been hard for me but now im here im glad i came. Tomorrow is another day and you have to do your best - that all you can do.  I can already see i will need lots of support but that i will need to filter the advice.  

    I am going to try to educate myself so im not so in the dark about things and do my best to be positive when i can.

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  • Hi

    My 4 year old son was diagnosed on Wednesday so i think i have a pretty good idea of how you feel.  Its like your son is autistic -now go and get on with it! Talk about feeling inadequate.  After the first 24hrs i stopped crying and now i am trying to look forward.  Even coming on a website like this has been hard for me but now im here im glad i came. Tomorrow is another day and you have to do your best - that all you can do.  I can already see i will need lots of support but that i will need to filter the advice.  

    I am going to try to educate myself so im not so in the dark about things and do my best to be positive when i can.

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