I'm frustrated!!

It's hard to know where to start! My son is almost 3 and has been diagnosed with autism - they're not sure what kind yet as his development is significantly delayed (alomost half of what it should be) so it's hard for them to assess him properly.

I'm frustrated because I feel like I'm surrounded by people who are (to some extent) supportive (although this very rarely translates into any practical help) but that whenever I have a day (like today!) were I'm just sad about his diagnosis, that I come in for a load of flack about how I should get over it and be happy that I have a healthy baby and that given a few years he'll be fine and if I just stopped comparing him to his sister (which I'd like to say I don't!) I'd be much happier.

Why does everyone around me seem to feel that it's such a terrible crime for me just to want to feel sad about it for a little while before I pull myself together (also everyone's advice!!) and carry on?

I suppose all I want is for someone to give me a hug, say "it's fine - have a good cry, feel sad and then get cracking again" - it's not a lot to ask for is it?

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  • hi kittycat , when our 4 year old was diagnosed we came up against a few of the same reactions ...he looks ok to me ..its because hes a twin ..he'll grow out of it ...and some of these were from professionals lol...being sad is part of the process as well as being angry and frustrated ... we try to laugh a lot and try not to get stressed out as much as we used to ..the best comment by far is when people say u and your husband need a night out to spend some time together ..yeah right and whos going to babysit because no one wants to .  its a long hard road (so i've been told ) but so has the first 4 years , and every day is unique and i wouldnt change a single thing ..so keep your chin up and im always here to talk to even if its for a good old moan xxx

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  • hi kittycat , when our 4 year old was diagnosed we came up against a few of the same reactions ...he looks ok to me ..its because hes a twin ..he'll grow out of it ...and some of these were from professionals lol...being sad is part of the process as well as being angry and frustrated ... we try to laugh a lot and try not to get stressed out as much as we used to ..the best comment by far is when people say u and your husband need a night out to spend some time together ..yeah right and whos going to babysit because no one wants to .  its a long hard road (so i've been told ) but so has the first 4 years , and every day is unique and i wouldnt change a single thing ..so keep your chin up and im always here to talk to even if its for a good old moan xxx

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