I'm frustrated!!

It's hard to know where to start! My son is almost 3 and has been diagnosed with autism - they're not sure what kind yet as his development is significantly delayed (alomost half of what it should be) so it's hard for them to assess him properly.

I'm frustrated because I feel like I'm surrounded by people who are (to some extent) supportive (although this very rarely translates into any practical help) but that whenever I have a day (like today!) were I'm just sad about his diagnosis, that I come in for a load of flack about how I should get over it and be happy that I have a healthy baby and that given a few years he'll be fine and if I just stopped comparing him to his sister (which I'd like to say I don't!) I'd be much happier.

Why does everyone around me seem to feel that it's such a terrible crime for me just to want to feel sad about it for a little while before I pull myself together (also everyone's advice!!) and carry on?

I suppose all I want is for someone to give me a hug, say "it's fine - have a good cry, feel sad and then get cracking again" - it's not a lot to ask for is it?

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  • Thank you - that's very helpful - I've heard that story from one of the professionals dealing with my son and I do keep it in my head - it's not what I expected or planned for but I do still have wonderful moments - this week he called me "mama" for the first time. I've waited three years for it and it was worth the wait!!

    As much as I don't want anyone else to be having a hard time it's good to know I'm not alone on the battles I face (mostly with those nearest and dearest!). Maybe in time it'll be something I just switch off from!!

     

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  • Thank you - that's very helpful - I've heard that story from one of the professionals dealing with my son and I do keep it in my head - it's not what I expected or planned for but I do still have wonderful moments - this week he called me "mama" for the first time. I've waited three years for it and it was worth the wait!!

    As much as I don't want anyone else to be having a hard time it's good to know I'm not alone on the battles I face (mostly with those nearest and dearest!). Maybe in time it'll be something I just switch off from!!

     

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