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Advice needed for 9 year old with anger management issues

KathS

Hello everyone

I have a nine year old step son who is both Autisic and has ADHD (not on any meds any longer) and is year four in a mainstream school.

Bar the odd temper tantrum (nothing I would think that is out of the ordinary), at home he is happy, confident and well behaved. Very funny, and charasmatic.

However, we are getting more frequent reports of violent outbursts at school, which are mainly 'caused'  / brough on by other children not fiollowing 'the rules' of the class or his perception that a rule is being broken. Or sometimes he is 'sticking up' for a younger child, who he perceives is being hard done by another child.

These outcomes have come to a head today, as he hit two kids while playing rounders who 'pushed in', the teacher was also pushed when the teacher tried to intervene.

Of course this is not acceptable behaviour...I feel rather helpless and frustrated as, afterwards, he's very sorry etc however when he loses his temper nothing seems to stop him.

We desp want to keep him in mainstream school, he's doing well-ish in his studies and is popular (other than these instances).

Does anyone have any suggestions or advice?

Thanks in advance.

Kathryn

  • When my son was younger I was so desperate that I would go to all these classes for anger managerment but what helped me was I went to this ADHD class and we used an egg timer you know the sand ones . At home we always had violent outbursts so i put him in the porch locked the door took anything we could see he would throw out of that room and told him to sit there and tell me when the sand had gone . Then when he shouted through the door it had gone i would tell him to turn it again ,this worked for my son as it was vision and calmed him down for quite a few months till he got bored with it. Hope this helped abit but must warn you as he gets older it gets worse