Hi,
Its been a few months since I posted as a newbie. Son 11 diagnosed HFA 6 months ago. Since then gained a placement at referral unit school part time which has made huge difference to his happiness and behaviour. His mainstream has unfortunately totally broken down now due to complete refusal by head to deal with a persistant bully (who is still causing problems at home address) I've engaged with several agencies and found a fab ed psych who has secured a specialised placement in secondary in september. But best of all we've gone from meltdowns several times a week to not one for months! I attribute this to all of the above; a fab school, support network and myself gaining more knowledge of the condition which has helped me immensely in understanding and helping my son better rather than just feeling a terrible parent because of the way my son behaved at times.
Don't get me wrong, we still have issues at times but we are not at that crisis point anymore. Suprisingly maybe I struggle with depression but attribute that to being in 'survival mode' then and now things have eased its like I'm now facing all that happened and the impact it had on my son, myself and family but I'm work in progress.
I wanted to say to everyone when I came on initially the support was appreciated more than you'll ever know and to say to everyone stay strong, awareness/knowledge is growing. Meeting others in similar situations (when my son displayed persistent challenging behaviour) made a massive difference, I didn't feel alone anymore or that I was doing everything wrong. I now appreciate all the positives Aspergers brings (aswell as the challenges) and feel more equipped at helping my son navigate his way through life. I still have frustrations (mostly at others ignorance) and fears for what the future holds but feel stronger
Anyway enough rambling, I just wanted to say I am grateful this forum exists, to have an insight from individuals with Aspergers too on here has been invaluable. Finally to say I've been at that dark place but with the right support anything is possible you've just got to shout for it - really loudly!
All the best to everyone,
Dee x
